I hope somebody can help me. I have an elderly mother I care much about, but I

You just might have to explain to her that it is getting too hard to deal with so you are afraid you are no longer going to be able to take her on outings.
Does the doctor think the high blood pressure and the panic attacks are directly related?
Maybe changing her diet to foods that help lower blood pressure would help
She could try some chamomile tea
Lots of garlic and fresh fruits and vegetables might help too.

Thanks so much for replying to me.

To answer your question about the blood pressure and the panic attacks, the doctor confirmed it was directly related. He had her blood pressure checked for a whole week and it was fine when she got over the panic attack. We had a nurse coming in three times a day and the doctor suggested a change of diet, as well as medication she refused to take. He also recommended a follow up with a doctor when we got home and regular therapy sessions with a psycologist. My mother has refused all of these, but I think she really needs medication.

Her condition may be linked to a difficult change in her life. She has just moved in with a relative who has five children and there is scarcely room for her. That was one of her rash decisions and not a good one. She told me she feels awful there and now regrets not having accepted to live with either me or my brother. We both offered her to come live with us as we are both divorced. I don

If she feels cramped that could contribute to her 'edgy-ness.

I will look up some stuff and if I find anything I will post it later.

You may need to gently tell her that if she does not take the medicine, all outings will end, not only for you, but for her well being. Also, it may be in her best interest to move from where she is living now to somewhere else, either with you or your brother, or even (I do not know if she can live independently or not) a highrise for the elderly, if she requires supervision, maybe assisted living will be more appropriate for her. I do not know if you are from the US or not, but if you are contact you local office of the aging, they will help you either find a better place for her, some even offer adult daycare for her to get out and spend time with people her age. Hope this helps.

Violet31,
Thanks for sharing your story. My situation is similar in that my mom needs help but refuses. She was actually taken to a mental health facility last week but they could only keep her for two days. She does not take her insulin and has lost feeling in her feet, hemmoriaged (sp?) behind her eyes, and has almost gone into a coma twice. I don't know where to turn. She has also started forgetting things and is very mad at my sister and myself for trying to get her to get help. She is a hoarder and is about to lose her house and I am so scared for her but also so tired of all of this as it has gone on for my entire adult life. If you find any help, please let me know.