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lucky27
Jan 30, 2008, 07:35 PM
Just wondering if anyone would date a teacher at their child's school?

Parajr
Jan 30, 2008, 07:58 PM
Just wondering if anyone would date a teacher at their childs school?
Being an assistant principal I would say that there is no problem with dating a teacher at your child's school. There a few factors to consider, and one is the size of the school. The second is the age of the child. At a large school with more than 60 teachers no one would even notice that u are dating. High school students are more likely to mention this or carry on conversations, but teachers are highly professional and would never jeoprdize their career to trying to harm or hurt your child if your relationship goes south. Id say like in all situations go for it just proceed with the same caution u would dating anyone else.

talaniman
Jan 31, 2008, 07:56 AM
No, it would just seem inapropriate, and my wife would never go for it.

EuRa
Jan 31, 2008, 08:42 AM
No, it would just seem inapropriate, and my wife would never go for it.
HAH!

I'm a teacher myself, and if that happened I'd feel a little weird about it. After all, what if it doesn't work out? The child in question might feel distanced from his teacher, or the teacher may take out his aggression on the student.

The school year is almost over. If you were FRIENDS and just stayed that way for a while, then I wouldn't see any harm in that. As long as you are conscious enough to remain friends and nothing more. Then, when the school year ends... DATE!

shygrneyzs
Jan 31, 2008, 08:56 AM
No, I would not date my child's teacher. Be friends, yes. But not more than that. Now once my child got out of school - for example, grade school, and middle school was in a different location, I MIGHT consider it. There would not be the presence of a conflict of interest in that situation.

lucky27
Jan 31, 2008, 08:48 PM
Thank you to all who replied. I must be honest. My child is only a freshman in high school. I had been knowing of this teacher for about 2 years but never expressed my feels until my child was active at the school. To make it worst he is someone who my child would have to see for the next 3 years.

I feel in love and had to broke it off after 3 weeks because he was my son's teacher. When we would see each other he would hug me in public at the school. He would blow kisses and display other forms of affection. I know the other parents saw this. I know that it could've became serious if it would have continued. I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea of dating him because there are so many other women in the school who adores this man.

Once I broke it off with him I cut off all communication I don't even speak. If I have a problem at the school I speak with the secondary teacher for my child class. I guess I was wondering if I did the right thing. I still think about him at times.

Thanks again, I just wanted to know if it was ethical or in good judgement to date a teacher.

cgregory67
Jan 31, 2008, 09:09 PM
Does you child know your feelings? If so what does he/she think?

TrueFaith
Feb 1, 2008, 04:19 AM
Talk it over with your boy

At the end of the day its down to you and him. How he feels about it and if you guys can make it work.


Good luck

lucky27
Feb 1, 2008, 10:40 AM
I use to joke with my child about this all the time last year. I would say, "I am about to date your teacher." He would say, "So he got so many you would be number 5,467. Then he would laugh at me and say, "Mom I don't care as long as your happy. I think it would be cool." Before I expressed my feeling to the teacher I did discuss it with my child the day before I did it. I wasn't sure if the teacher was engaged or seeing other people so I emailed him; but not from my personal account. I asked him to call me if he wasn't seeing anyone and sure enough he called but I assumed that he already knew who it was.
As things began to take off I did start thinking more about my child and his growth in this program where he heads it up. I didn't want anyone to think that my child was getting ahead because I was dating the teacher. With all that said I had to walk away.