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kitten94515
Jan 23, 2008, 12:44 PM
:( okay well first of all. You might want to read my other two posts.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/live-him-since-may-5th-have-no-clue-what-do-134756.html

And

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/first-bf-172434.html

I know it is a lot of reading. But please I'm 13 and I need A lot of help with this.
Okay so the kid I talk about in #1 is the guy that I had liked. Then in #2 I got a new boyfriend.
Okay well me and my boyfriend had fun at the party but we ended up kissing and blah blah blah. But I didn't let him get that far. I actually ended up slapping him :o
But anyway. I don't really like my boyfriend. Or I don't feel like I do.
And okay so the guy I "did" like I think I like him again. But I told my friend to go out with him because I "dont" like him. And he likes her. So. So. So.
I know I am going to brake up with my boyfriend. Because I don't like a lot of things about him. And then like what do I do?
I don't want to brake up with my boyfriend and then like my friends boyfriend again.
I don't want to be depressed again.
):
Thanks everyone.
Especially if you read the other articles and this one...
:confused:
Help me please.
:(

justcurious55
Jan 23, 2008, 03:53 PM
Wow. You're the first person in a while with enough boy drama to rival my best friend. Hehe :)

OK, so lets start with the current boyfriend. If you're not into being his girlfriend, for any reason, dump him. Me and my ex were together for about 2 years. I stopped liking him after about 1/2 a year, but I got used to having him around so I didn't break it off. Wasting so much time with someone I'd lost interest in is one of the very few regrets I have. Now we're pretty good friends though.

Now about your friend and the guy you like though... are you sure he likes her? Like how do you kow? And does she like him? Are they actually even dating? I need more details before I can give advice about that ;)

kitten94515
Jan 24, 2008, 06:08 AM
Okay. Well yeah forst of all thanks for actually reading. Lol. And the kid I "used" to or "do" like you know (im still confused) but yeah he's asked her out a few times but she was in a relationship. Well she just broke up with eher boyfriend and so they might go out, she wanted to know if I still liked him. But I told her no. because even if I said yes I would tell her to go out with him just because I want to see him happy there's no point for me to stop that. I would just be a bad person. But yeah they like each other. And my boyfriend hasn't called me for 5 days. That's ed up. ):

justcurious55
Jan 24, 2008, 10:20 PM
Hmmm... doesnt sound like the guy you're with is really the one for you. Maybe time to dup him and move on. I would say tell your friend that you do still like him. If you don't, and they get together, I think you'll regret not telling her how you feel about him. And who knows, maybe he asked her out instead of you because he thought you really weren't interested. ;) telling them both, or even just her, will not make you a bad person. Not at all.

supriya _82
Jan 25, 2008, 01:08 AM
okay. well yeah forst of all thanks for actually reading. lol. and the kid i "used" to or "do" like ya know (im stil confused) but yeah he's asked her out a few times but she was in a relationship. well she just broke up with eher bf and so they might go out, she wanted to knwo if i still liked him. but i told her no. bc even if i said yes i would tell her to go out with him just because i want to see him happy theres no point for me to stop that. i would just be a bad person. but yeah they like each other. and my bf hasnt called me for 5 days. thats ed up. ): I am sorry but your friend did have the courtesy ask you first, which was awfully decent of her, and you said you did not like him. Now if you tell your again that you do like him you are hoping that she does not go out with him. So 3 things could happen:
a) Out of goodness and decency she might say no to him which makes you a little, tinsy winsy selfish, and her being decent again
b) He might not want to go out with you
c) Your friend might ignore you and go out with him anyway, maybe affecting you friendship??

I think the honorable thing would be to let them be. You have had your chance and it is too early in life for you - you will have many more, perhaps with the same guy again. Let them also have a shot at happiness.
If you do not like you current boyfriend just dump him. The dumping should not be conditional on having a BF to go to before dumpng the current one. If your earlier Bf has any feelings for you he will approach you on his own accord once he learns that you are single.

justcurious55
Jan 25, 2008, 07:41 AM
I agree that you don't need to have another boyfriend lined up before you dumo the current boyfriend. But being honest does not make you selfish at all. It's not a garuantee that everything will work out exacty as you'd like, but it's better than having to carry a lie around with you. Maybe you're friend will still go out with him even if you tell her you still like him. And maybe they will be really happy together. And if she thinks that you don't have any feelings for him she's going to want to sare that happiness and its going to be awful to have to listen to it. But if she knows that you do have feelings for him then she'll know not to say too much about it, or it'll seem like she's rubbing it in.
Very rarely, if ever, is the honorable thing to do lying.

kitten94515
Jan 25, 2008, 01:49 PM
Well didn't interfere at all. I swear. But I dumped my boyfriend because I guess he liked his ex more than me anyway. w/e. idc. But my friend I told her to go out with him and for some reason she didn't, she said no. and it made him sad. I don't want to see him sad. But I don't think he will ever like me. I don't know. And I'm not looking for a new boyfriend because my first boyfriend (him) was only about 2 weeks and it was great... he was my first boyfriend... but I didn't like him... but I don't know I am starting to like the other kid again. But I don't want to. The only reason I want another boyfriend quick is so maybe I could replace my crush... because all it did for me like him was make me sad and depressed because I would beat myself up about it... but I don't know... anything else?

kitten94515
Jan 30, 2008, 06:11 PM
Well.
I did break up with him.
And I am starting to like the kid I used to like, again.
And its terrible.
I am terribly sad.
It might just be my emotions... but I don't know what to do.

justcurious55
Jan 30, 2008, 10:43 PM
Break ups just kind of suck in general. Take a day or two to just let yourself be sad, curl up in your favorite pj's with your favorite movie. Then after that you need to make yourself move on. Get together with your girlfriends or something and just have fun.

kitten94515
Jan 31, 2008, 06:31 AM
Thanks. But I don't want to go back to liking the kid I used to like because he has so many bad things about him. And I have tried everything to get him out of my mind. But the thought just cam back as soon as I told my boyfriend I didn't want to be with him. It is so horrible. ):

talaniman
Jan 31, 2008, 08:54 AM
Maybe leave them both alone, and find something else, you like to do.