I have a niece whom just wrote me an email in desperate need for help.. She just admitted to self mutilating on her thighs because the wrist is to obvious..her email reads..

Hay titi what's up? nun much here jus home bored cuz i have no life! Memba when u were talkin to me & da gurlz that night in the room. well.... there were so many things i wanted to get off my chest a tear fell from eye but i wiped it quickly so nobody would see. I just couldn't say anything because to many people were in there. And i couldn't call you cuz i get my thoughts out better when i write... well i need to get something off my mind before i do something stupid that i regret! U reminded me that night that there are people who are there for me and i wish so badly i could talk to my mom but i dont want to hurt her!........Ever since we moved to florida i'v lost myself completely! i don't know who i am anymore as a matter of fact i hate who i am! i might look happy in my pics but there's a lot missing! the first year i was down here everything was OK but for the last three years i been so depressed and im not sure why. I treat my bf so badly because i hate me and don't love me that i can't let him love me! he's always been there for me but that hasn't;t been enough all i'v wanted for my time here was to have a friend,a best friend! but im alone in school other than my bf. I use to go into the bathroom in school for three years and just cry because i felt so alone. I use do that no matter where i was if i didn't feel excepted which was most of the time that i felt like that. At chruch home, school and some of the sports that i played. I hated doing that so much i just wanted somebody to notice or care and i felt no one did. melissa knew i was sad so we agreed that we would be best friends and she is , but now she's gone. SO IM LONELY AGAIN but now instead of crying i ..................
have cut myself a few times(PLEASE DONT SAY ANYTHING TO ANYONE TITI) and now i have this really wired addiction to something im totally embarrassed of it ( i'v told absolutely no one about it and im scared to tell you but i will cuz i need help ......:( help me! i have the lowest self esteem ever i feel im so ugly it pisses me off when people call me pretty even tony because i don't belive it! Guys never show interest in me!!!!!!literally im not kidding! just a few minutes ago i was going to find a razor but im sick of my depression and hurt i decided to tell somebody you don't know how much it took in me to be able to tell you this. Because lately iv been doubting family too for caring about me. Sometimes i feel just as alone with them as i do with friends but partly its my fault because i pull myself away from many social situations. Like the night of the party i went to bed while everyone was up . I do that a lot! Im so lost now!!!!! i dont know who i am anymore!!!


I am desperate to help her & while I know professional help is the best thing for her right now..I think it's a delicate situation & I want to take the proper precautions & take it one step at a time where I wont abuse her confidence in me. I think it took a lot to come to me being I live in NY & she lives in FL. I don't want to scare her away or make her feel like she trusted the wrong person.. Please help me!

She needs help, now, maybe you can call her and talk her into to speaking to a counslor or some one that she trust down there. Her depression and cutting are the ultimate cry. I would keep trying to get her into a program of some sort, I understand how you don't want to break her confidence but she needs someone to help her now. Keep the communication lines open!

mamabutafly, keep trying, I know your there for her, let me know how it's going.... I have a daughter who I'm still working with, trying to get her to see the light, never give up! I think there's some that it just takes more words and time to convenience that their worth it! My good thoughts, prayers and wishes are with you!

tell her she needs help. she has done the bravest thing in telling you and this is the first step in getting proper help. Her cutting herself is a symptom of underlying feelings of self loathing coming from other pain in her life. Keep telling her you are there for her, but she needs to get help. Tell her not to be ashamed as lots of people cut themselves as they have no one to talk to and the pain inside is too great. but she can get rid of her pain and has started by telling you. Always focus on hope for the future.

Talk to her, talk to her parents, get her the professional help she has to have.

She sent you the e-mail so you would help her. Call her parents IMMEDIATELY and tell them what she is doing. It is their responsibility to help her.

hi mamabutafly..The first thing is to tell her how incredibaly brave she is and that she has done the right thing in telling you.When people cannot express how they are feeling, frustration builds up until it cannot be contained any longer.She is self harming for a release,because she hasnt been expressing her feelings verbally it has come to thiss point where the only relief from her emotions is by cutting herself. I wish you all the best in dealing with this delicate situation and you must be a very special person in her life for her to have reached out to you and shared her pain.