I have a little problem that I think you guys could help me with. After breaking up with my ex I've been with a lot of women. I haven't dated any of them but I do occasionally hangout with them for drinks or what have you. Anyway, during this past summer I was at a club with a friend of mine and we were just talking when my friend pointed out to me that there was this girl checking me out. I acted cool of course and didn't really give her much attention. She ended up dancing closer and closer to me until I finally decided to dance with her. We ended up dancing three straight songs and in the end I asked her for her name and number which she gave me. Let me tell you too, she is really hot. We talked occasionally on the phone but I purposely lost contact with her for about two and a half months because I felt like she was playing games. I deleted her as a friend on myspace but decided to keep the telephone number. I called her up last week out the blue and she drove two and a half hours to come and visit me with her friend. This was before she realized I had deleted her and asked me why I done so. I told her it was her fault I deleetd her as a friend on myspace. Before I deleted her I would call and she wouldn't pick up and she was always "so busy." So I friended her again and she accepted. Okay, so she came and visited we ended up going out for Brunch, a walk, and a movie. Her friend beign there as well. I had both of them laughing the entire time and more than once she touched me during the day. I could tell she was having fun and really enjoying my company. Not to mention, I was enjoying her's too. In the end she drove me home and while in the car insisted on knowing the direction to get to my house. When we pulled up she asked what floor I lived on and waited until I was inside before taking off. She plans on coming back to where I live again this weekend for a get together at a friends house to celebrate my brother's/sister's b-day. I mean I really enjoyed her company. She was funny, stylish, caring (at least for the few hours I was with her), and just had an upbeat attitude. I can see this girl being my girlfriend.

***Here is the catch. 1)She lives two and a half hours away from me. (2) I visited her myspace page and there was something about her being with her 'chulo' which means lover boy in spanish. -I of course will never ask her about this because it would just be a wussy thing to do.

What do you guys think I should do? I was thinking to just continue playing it cool and not to mention anything about a possible relationship. I've been thinking to treat her like all the other girls that I hungout with. What irks me though is that I've never felt like hanging out with someone since my ex as much as I want to hangout with her. It irks me because here's a great opportunity with a huge roadblock in our paths: DISTANCE. What's the deal? Thanks for your time and help on his somewhat minor issue.

Darlin, if you can really see her as your girlfriend, then why not ask her about her "chulo?" It could be an innocent nickname, or it could be that she really does have a lover and you are fun on the side. You're not at the boyfriend/girlfriend point yet, so why not ask? She knows about the myspace thing because she made a point to be re-friended. I'd ask her... it may possibly give you a perfect lead in to asking her to be your girlfriend.

As to the distance thing... two and a half hours really isn't much. I had successful relationship with a military guy for 2 years - and he was definitely more than 2 1/2 hours away. Bottom line, if you want it to work, it will work.

Good luck! She sounds like a great girl! :)

I agree with HistorianChick
You might want to ask about all the friends/family on her myspace in general so that you don't come off as making an issue of him.

Seems interesting to me that you would write they you have been with a lot of women since your last g/f when it has absolutely nothing to do with the story.

It appears (at least to me) that you have what is called an over-blown ego. Your style of "not caring" is a dead givaway. What also strikes me is that you wrote that you had deleted her from Myspace but it took her quite awhile to even notice you were missing, plus she didn't call you back on occasion. So this bites at you because you actually like this girl and you have no idea how to ask her w/o being rejected.

I'd find out about her lover boy before you go and do something you'll inevitably be shot down for (on account of the guy... or other things). Find out what the deal is with him/her and then call her and tell her you like her, never mind all the games.

I think he was trying to make the point that this girl is special, that he feels differently about her and wasn't just trying to boost his ego, fool

I didn't say he was using this current girl to boost his ego you clown.

I didn't say he was using this current girl to boost his ego you clown.
Lets not get offensive now. I was just saying why, in my eyes, he told us that he had been with lots of girls before. For your information I am a musician not a clown.

Ok... so I told her that I had a great time hanging out with her and that we should definitely hangout more often. She agreed to this. I also asked her whether she was talking to anyone and she told me she was not talking to anyone but that she only had friends and that that was all "they" were... lol. Whatever that meant. She also proceeded to asking me whether I was talking to anyone which I took to be a good sign because if she wasn't interested I don't think she would have cared to ask about my status. Anyway from the sound of things it seems like she was willing to give it a shot and see how things go. We've made plans to get together on the 15th of Feb. since both of us will be extremely busy in the weeks to come. I have yet to ask her about this "chulo" that she mentioned a few times on her myspace page. Do you guys think I should ask her about it now or wait until we hangout again and she starts feeling more comfortable around me?

YAY! I love hearing success stories!

I'd wait to ask her about it until it comes up naturally. Its so sweet how when you asked her if she was "talking to anyone" she turned around and asked you if you were talking to anyone. That's a great sign. That means she is interested. (well, she's obviously interested because you two made plans!)

She's sending you all the right signals. Keep it cool, keep it light with the possibility for depth, and have a WONDERFUL time!

Happy for you! :)

I would not ask her about it yet. You two don't really have any thing established yet.

thoughtiwastheman agrees: Yeah, I thought so too. I'm just going to ride the wave from here and see where it leads

This is the best way. Just go with the flow, see how things go.