rewoprm
Jan 13, 2008, 08:41 PM
This girl and I have been together 3 months, exclusively, but she can't be my girlfriend etc she reckons even though we do EVERYTHING a couple does and act like that in public as well. Told me she is not over her ex, he dumped her and now he wants her back after 6 months. She said that the only reason she is not back with him is cause she is seeing me otherwise she would go back to him tomorrow. She is afraid to decide what to do etc etc, I'm like well break it off with me and go away then but she cries and says she loves me and can't do that, to me she is just waiting for me to break it off so she doesn't have to do the decision making and make it easier for her, should I sit her down and have a big chat, but I'm sick of talking its doing my head in, or tell her make her mind up or I'm gone?
Like we are full on in everyway, from saying I love you etc etc, I hear through the grape vine from her friends that she just can't decide. Me cause I'm this great new love in her life but him cause its easier, convenient, memories etc etc. To me he broke up with her to be singel, can't get anyone to date or sleep with and now rings up the ex girl saying he is sorry. Like she told me that it would be easier just to get back with him etc etc and she wonders if she should if she has feelings for him still, I told her we all still love our exes in some way and always will but their your ex for a reason and don't let them hold you back. Why do I bother? I can't help it cause I have strong feelings for her. Seems to me she can't make up her mind cause she is afriad that if the wrong decision is made she will loose out. Should I just make the decision for her? Tell her its me or nothing. I think that would do it as she is just being a cop out by not wanting to be the one that calls it. Ah!!
I do feel like its inevitable that they will get back together, like to say all those things to me about being with him if wasn't for me period, its like she is just waiting for me to let her go so its easier for her, she "complains" in a joking way mind you that I'm to perfect and to good to get etc etc, its like she wants me to **** up so she can exit. I don't want to see other people and sometimes I do feel as though I should just enjoy our time together, but that's basically wasting my time for the inevitable I feel. I was thinking of telling her I just need time to myself to work out what I want as I'm not sure if I can handle this anymore. Truth hurts I gues
The whole can't be boyfriend and girlfriend is I think cause it leaves the door still open as being official is moving on right? Well to her it is... yes I do feel she just wants me to make the decision so she doenst have to be the bad guy so to speak, but all I want is her and I wonder if I just treat her right and hang in there that she will realise its time to move on and be with me? Nothing worse than telling her its me or him and her going OK bye but I guess then it's the truth then? Ah so hard... my biggest fear is that I say it and she goes then ends up not getting gback with him and just staying single or breaking up with them anyway, I just trying to hold on to her I guess and honesty is great from her but sucks to know the truth and yet no have her act on it either way. I just wonder if I just support her and be a friend to her I can only be doing the mature kind thing and if it don't work out so be it?
Like we are full on in everyway, from saying I love you etc etc, I hear through the grape vine from her friends that she just can't decide. Me cause I'm this great new love in her life but him cause its easier, convenient, memories etc etc. To me he broke up with her to be singel, can't get anyone to date or sleep with and now rings up the ex girl saying he is sorry. Like she told me that it would be easier just to get back with him etc etc and she wonders if she should if she has feelings for him still, I told her we all still love our exes in some way and always will but their your ex for a reason and don't let them hold you back. Why do I bother? I can't help it cause I have strong feelings for her. Seems to me she can't make up her mind cause she is afriad that if the wrong decision is made she will loose out. Should I just make the decision for her? Tell her its me or nothing. I think that would do it as she is just being a cop out by not wanting to be the one that calls it. Ah!!
I do feel like its inevitable that they will get back together, like to say all those things to me about being with him if wasn't for me period, its like she is just waiting for me to let her go so its easier for her, she "complains" in a joking way mind you that I'm to perfect and to good to get etc etc, its like she wants me to **** up so she can exit. I don't want to see other people and sometimes I do feel as though I should just enjoy our time together, but that's basically wasting my time for the inevitable I feel. I was thinking of telling her I just need time to myself to work out what I want as I'm not sure if I can handle this anymore. Truth hurts I gues
The whole can't be boyfriend and girlfriend is I think cause it leaves the door still open as being official is moving on right? Well to her it is... yes I do feel she just wants me to make the decision so she doenst have to be the bad guy so to speak, but all I want is her and I wonder if I just treat her right and hang in there that she will realise its time to move on and be with me? Nothing worse than telling her its me or him and her going OK bye but I guess then it's the truth then? Ah so hard... my biggest fear is that I say it and she goes then ends up not getting gback with him and just staying single or breaking up with them anyway, I just trying to hold on to her I guess and honesty is great from her but sucks to know the truth and yet no have her act on it either way. I just wonder if I just support her and be a friend to her I can only be doing the mature kind thing and if it don't work out so be it?