My girlfriend just kicked me to the curb after 8 months everything was beautiful then all of a sudden an email of all things... 'she said she has a flaw in her character. She can't let herself love as most people do.' WHAT?? HUH?? If she felt like this why did she not discuss with me?? We had a great relationship, in ALL areas... at least I thought so.:confused:

"kicked me to the curb" I like that description! Breakup with an email? She has no class, sorry.
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Wow! Ok first off the whole "I have a flaw in my character" is crap. I'm sorry to sound rude, but I assume you are looking for an honest opinion (and that's all this is). I speak only from personal experiences in my life. Girls tend to say things that confuse you so that they can use it as an easy way out. Her flaw is that she isn't being honest with you. After an 8 month relationship, an e-mail is a slap in the face. NOBODY should break up in e-mail, text, v-mail, etc. That's basically saying "after all we've been through, this is what it boils down to." Honey let her go. Let her do her thing and realize what a mistake she made. Don't give her reason to believe you are going to sit around and wait for her because then she will make you do just that. Let her go and move on with your life no matter how hard it may be. It will get easier. Remember what's meant to be will be. Good luck hon!

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hey man I am sorry to hear that... but I have one thiing to say is...

IF A GIRL BREAK UP WITH Someone OVER AN EMAIL... TEXT.. That mean they don't even like you that much to tell you that face to face with you...

so why bother wondering around and being sad ? Just let it go... and try to have fun without her and let her no that dumping you is the big mistake tat she made and move on ^^

Thanks for the answers guys... here is the last note she sent..

I know its hard for you, it's hard for me. I am truly sorry you feel I lied to you. I did not. At the time those words were spoken, I did feel that way. I wanted to so bad, I think I tricked myself. I hate being without a partner, I know I am a better person when I am in a relationship. You seemed like the perfect partner. But as the months went by, I could not keep fooling myself. It just wasn't there, no matter how bad I wanted it to be.
You are a wonderful person, and you deserve someone who will be crazy in love with you. I, on the other hand, will live out my life alone, because I have a flaw in my character. I can't let myself love as most people do.

All the advice I get is the same... Everyone of you is right. I just hate that 8mos of my life has been wasted... EVERYTHING was soooooooo good everyone was stable with no drama,(or so I thought) financially secure,etc... I just don't get it??
I guess the lesson here is if someone tells you they love you ask them WHY they love you...

so let me put it short...

she said all those things just to make herself look better... so hey... why wasted more time with her.. it new year coming... go have fun buddy.. dont be sad about this..

and the reason we all speak the same.. because it the true...

hey... we fail a lot... but it just make us stronger... better.. and go on with the next relationship more perfect ^^... you didn't wasted anything for the last 8 months.. you learned... for the last 8 months.. you learned a lot of things that pplz cant.. and you should be proud...

best wishes and happy new year buddy... go out and have fun

and one more thing.. damn this girl know how to talk... run dude.. run away and fast

I know its hard for you, it's hard for me....I, on the other hand, will live out my life alone, because I have a flaw in my character. I can't let myself love as most people do.

She ought to apply for a job as a writer for the Letterman show!

Run. Run as fast as you can!

You said: "I guess the lesson here is if someone tells you they love you ask them WHY they love you...". No; the question here is why did your girlfriend lie to you; don't take her mistake and apply it to anyone else. I don't believe asking "why" will get you anywhere. Is she joining a nunnery?

I admire this girl for having the courage to break it up. She could have dragged this relationship on and on just for the sake of being with a warm body, and you could have missed out on meeting someone who really likes you and appreciate you, and who wants to be with you.


Be grateful she is gone.

Dana2007: You said: "I admire this girl for having the courage to break it up." This isn't what he was posting. He is posting about her breaking up with an email. Are you OK with that?

Perhaps to her understanding, they had become distanced enough that an email was appropriate? The bottom line is that they were not right for each other. She told him so. End of story. Experiencing indignance, based on the polite way to interact is a timewaster. She was done, she was honest. Go on and enjoy life dude. Now you know much better how to spot her"type."

Not so easy to spot "her type" when she is a liar; that isn't the norm, is it?

I will enjoy life... my point was NO ONE should say good bye via a email only a coward would do that. After 8mos of history... where we saw each other each weekend.. a phone call during the day here and there... an email. Both of us are professionals. Went to the beach and planned an island vac. Lots of good history no drama or major conflict. We were a good fit all the way around...
Something's amiss and I am OK with that... just think it is a slap to do it with an email as if I really don't count... I mean what am I chopped Liver!!
This big old ball takes another spin and life goes on..
Her loss for I am one of the not so bad guys!! World traveler,no drama,no baggage,secure and independent. I'll take my soon to be blind dog, sailboat and clubs & look elsewhere. Personally I think she is a liar.


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The email does seem a bit cowardly and rude. I suppose it is the modern equivalent of a Dear John letter though.

Take her for her word that she meant it when she said it, but things change and she had a change of heart.

How many times do people get divorced? One person changes their thoughts on something that they initially believed very much. There could be a thousand reasons for it, but it won't change the outcome. She is done with the relationship.

If you had fun and an enjoyable time for as long as it lasted, then it wasn't really a waste of time, because you made some good memories despite the ending not being so pleasant.

Time to accept it. You can feel hurt, but let it go... It won't help you at all to hang on to the bitterness. Wish her well, and look forward to new things with time.

I'm against any type of dating over the internet including breaking up, but you have to give the girl credit for breaking it up instead of stringing the guy along.

Now latitude had his freedom to date other women.

I have done just a small amount of research on breaking up by email, text message, or phone. No one recommends it or condones it. The other issue is the woman's character or lack of it. I suppose we can draw our own conclusions, but you know as well as I that she didn't change her mind over night. At some point she forsook his trust in her; and said goodbye in a cowardly manner. The saving grace for Latitude37 is that her final act was so bad that it will make the entire play that much easier to forget.

George_1950 Thanks for your comment. You are correct. And to think we had even begun to discuss creating a small business. She totally has NO class.
There is nothing I regret about the relationship because I was always upfront & honest about what I want,who I am. Always did the right thing.
And the right thing here is take it and go... love another day... her loss.
Things happen the way they are supposed to happen.

She could have broken up by taking your money, slashing your tires, left you for another guy.

Be glad all she did was send you an e-mail.

I think this is an issue of feeling hurt for being dumped and not about the e-mail.

Do something you enjoy to help you feel better. Soon you won't even remember her name.

Just imagine this, Latitude37: This courageous girlfriend let you off easy; she could have taken your credit cards, stolen your identity, burned your home, or left you for another woman. And trust is really a four letter word.

Don't get me wrong... Not about being dumped... been there before as I am sure we all have. IT is about the email as I thought I deserved better after establishing a little history in this relationship but this woman shows her true lack of class. Everyone deserves a face to face just from the standpoint of closure. I do appreciate everyone's comments... no way would I consider expending any energy to fight for this one. Not worth it.