how do I know if he really loves me we have only been together for a short time I had him come over to my sister's house for x-mas and when he got out the car he had gotten a text it was from a friend but when I looked at his old messages he was texting some other girl even on the same day he was coming over to my sister's house he said he was sorry he didn't know why he was talking to her he didn't want to be with her but when I texted her back he told her that he wanted to be with her I also lied to him at the beginning of our relationship and I told him that I was married but he lives in another state we are no longer together but just not devorced yet does that give him the right to be able to talk to other woman just because I'm married even though I'm faithful to him and not cheating on him we don't live together so its hard for me to trust him I just feel like he tells me what I want to here how do I know he isn't still talking to other woman I need some help if someone can give me some advice I would like to hear back thank you:confused:

It sounds like you need to start over; no more lying.