Marmar77
Dec 16, 2007, 05:30 PM
A few months ago I had a misunderstanding with my girlfriend and after the fight I told her I needed some space to clear my head and we should take a break. We were apart for three weeks before we me t for lunch, everything seemed OK and I slowly started to get the ball rolling again, but I tried she told me she had moved on.
My female cousin still remained friends with her and informed me that she was seeing someone, I couldn't make sense of this because we had only been on a break for under a month at most. My cousin then swore me to secrecy and told me that my now ex was dating a married man.
I was upset as was my cousin but I could not say anything to the ex about her stupid situation without breaching the trust between her and my cousin. The only thing I could made sense to me was that this was all out of spite cause my cousin told me she had suspected me of cheating when I wasn't. So because I still loved her I tried to see if she wanted to work something out but kept coming up short. My cousin then told me a few days ago that my ex had spoke to her and she said that she was through with me, she has a new man know and was in love.
I almost laughed at this because to me this looked like a text book case of rebounding. There had been barely enough time to get over me and she was on this married guys crotch in a minute. She also went as far as to tell my cousin that she wanted to keep me on the side. Since finding all of this out I've cut off all contact with her computer and phone. The only hard part for me is I love her still and truly worry about what's going to happen to her mentally and emotionally when this married guy is finished using her or his wife catches them. I keep thinking that he just played on her vulnerability and took advantage of our situation.
I've slowly moved on but I've been careful of who I've been seeing because I know my head is not fully back in the game and don't want to make her mistake by rebounding like that.
Am I on the right track? What will happened to her situation? And if she comes back by some chance how am supposed to handle that?
My female cousin still remained friends with her and informed me that she was seeing someone, I couldn't make sense of this because we had only been on a break for under a month at most. My cousin then swore me to secrecy and told me that my now ex was dating a married man.
I was upset as was my cousin but I could not say anything to the ex about her stupid situation without breaching the trust between her and my cousin. The only thing I could made sense to me was that this was all out of spite cause my cousin told me she had suspected me of cheating when I wasn't. So because I still loved her I tried to see if she wanted to work something out but kept coming up short. My cousin then told me a few days ago that my ex had spoke to her and she said that she was through with me, she has a new man know and was in love.
I almost laughed at this because to me this looked like a text book case of rebounding. There had been barely enough time to get over me and she was on this married guys crotch in a minute. She also went as far as to tell my cousin that she wanted to keep me on the side. Since finding all of this out I've cut off all contact with her computer and phone. The only hard part for me is I love her still and truly worry about what's going to happen to her mentally and emotionally when this married guy is finished using her or his wife catches them. I keep thinking that he just played on her vulnerability and took advantage of our situation.
I've slowly moved on but I've been careful of who I've been seeing because I know my head is not fully back in the game and don't want to make her mistake by rebounding like that.
Am I on the right track? What will happened to her situation? And if she comes back by some chance how am supposed to handle that?