The needle wont go through because you dont know how to do it, thats why you always get these things done by licensed piercer.
And "is it ok to use an earring"? Are you serious? They are called earrings because they go in your ears, not your bellybutton
If you continue to try and pierce yourself you are at high risk for infection, which means you are going to need to go to the doctor and get antibiotics, and depending on how severe it is (it'll be pretty severe if you use an earring) you will probably just have to take it out anyways.
Why are you trying to do it yourself? Your parents wont let you have it done? If thats the case then just wait until you are 18 and sign for yourself. If you do get infected and leave it untreated, you can injure yourself more than just in your piercing. Is that really worth piercing yourself?