Wife sexting?

She begged me to go to councseling with her about her being so needy since she turned 40. I said I would but asked her to make the call and set the meeting.. She has made a call and is awaiting info from her doctor. She says she is disgusted by the whole thing and now sees how bad it is but swears that in the moment she didn't stop to think about how bad it was and how hurtfull. She says she can't live without me and will do anything to get through this and will be forever gratefull if I can just this once please give her a chance. Yes, we have spent the last two days talking about how I feel and about our life together. She does not want to talk about the event anymore as she says it is more hurtfull to continue to dwell on this because she is so embarrased and disgusted

Good to hear she made the call. That's the first step.

I'm sure that there is hope here. People do mess up once in a while. It is up to you if you are willing to forgive her and to let this go.

Either way, I wish you two the best of luck.

thanks again! Guess I needed someone to tell me I am not crazy to try

You're welcome! Also, you're NOT crazy for trying, in fact, I commend you FOR trying.

I'm glad you are trying to work things out. Counselling is ALWAYS a good idea. I will add that she probably DOESN'T want to talk about it but she NEEDS to talk about it until you feel more secure and you can trust her again - if you ever can. She was inappropriate. Emotional cheating in my mind is every bit as damaging as physical cheating.

I have a couple of concerns - Where is her male friend's wife in this equation? If your neighbor told you this is no big secret.

She bought a phone just for the purpose of "sex-ting" this guy? This was not a mistake. This was premeditated.

Do you believe it never turned physical between them?

She is wrong to justify HER actions by citing YOUR behavior.

You also make reference to how often you have sex, how good the sex is. I'm an investigator. I do a fair number of matrimonial surveillances. I have never once had a woman tell me the affair is/was about the sex - it's always about the attention.

With men it often is about the sex.

Sorry that my advice comes from a less forgiving place but I've done so any matrimonial investigations over the years that I am somewhat jaded and always have to ask the same questions.

I wish you well -

Thank you for taking the time and for an honest reply. I will consider your thoughts carefully. Thanks to everyone for the help. I think I found the answers I was looking for and am ready to face the next few months.

Please come back and let us know how you are doing, how the marriage is, if you work it out.

I hope you do -