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Why is he so selfish in bed, I do everything - but get nothing in return!
My boyfriend is so selfish in bed, our sex is praciticly a routine.
I do everything for him, i want to be a good lover to him and i put his pleasure first. He asks me to wear sexy outfits and underwear when we have sex, which is fine with me.
He tells me what he wants in bed and i do it for him 'cos i want to make him feel good, usually he asks me to lick body paint off him and give him a blowjob. It aches my mouth but i still do it until he tells me to stop because i love him and want to mke him feel good.
The reason why i find him selfish is because when i ask for things it's always 'NO' or 'Later' but later never comes. I asked him to massage me because i had a stressful day and he told me 'later' but it never happened.
I've asked him to go down on me a few times but it's always 'NO' or 'I gotta be in the mood'.
I think it's really selfish - as i had just given him a blowjob which he asked me to give him before i asked for the favour to be returned.
I've tried to stop giving him things he wants but i can't stop. I want to be a good lover so i don't stop giving him what he wants, though it means that sex is not making me orgasm.
Or....better yet....say "I'd be happy to do that...but why don't YOU get ME in the mood first by doing <whatever you'd like him to do>"
He's spoiled, and doesn't HAVE to give you anything--you never tell him "no" when he wants something.
Relationships should be give and take on BOTH sides--and you're doing all the giving. If he won't change, then you might have to decide whether or not you're willing to live with the status quo for the rest of your life, or whether you should move on to someone less selfish.
Girl, you need to find Bob (aka battery-operated-boyfriend) and cut this guy loose. What kind of selfish prick doesn't get involve in a mutually satisfying relationship? You've already said that you have tried to engage him in the types of things that you like to do and he says no. If you initiate sex from several types of angles and it just isn't working for him then the problem is him. It's a good thing that you haven't already signed papers for this jerk.
What you need to do is not do anything for him until he becomes real horny, a horny guy is just like a dog, you can make him do tricks by giving him treats. To translate, the trick is for him to eat you and the treat is then for you to give him the blow job he wants so bad,
I agree with everything written! Just get rid of him, if he loved you, he would want to make you happy, to please you. Hey, get him in the mood then just walk away. I also really agree with TallBlondie, get bob! It's very obvious bob with make you a million times happier then the man next to you.
Maybe not, but have you noticed how many ladies "enjoy" mowing the lawn? Could it be from the "vibrating" machine they are driving around in the yard. That look on their face is not from the heat of the sun you know.
Maybe not, but have you noticed how many ladies "enjoy" mowing the lawn? Could it be from the "vibrating" machine they are driving around in the yard. That look on their face is not from the heat of the sun you know.
Mowerman, you think they ENJOY mowing the lawn? That smile is a Valium-daze; they married the wrong dude. I'll mow the lawn right after my SO grows tits.
My boyfriend is so selfish in bed, our sex is practically a routine.
I do everything for him, i want to be a good lover to him and i put his pleasure first. He asks me to wear sexy outfits and underwear when we have sex, which is fine with me.
He tells me what he wants in bed and i do it for him 'cos i want to make him feel good, usually he asks me to lick body paint off him and give him a blowjob. It aches my mouth but i still do it until he tells me to stop because i love him and want to make him feel good.
The reason why i find him selfish is because when i ask for things it's always 'NO' or 'Later' but later never comes. I asked him to massage me because i had a stressful day and he told me 'later' but it never happened.
I've asked him to go down on me a few times but it's always 'NO' or 'I gotta be in the mood'.
I think it's really selfish - as i had just given him a blowjob which he asked me to give him before i asked for the favour to be returned.
I've tried to stop giving him things he wants but i can't stop. I want to be a good lover so i don't stop giving him what he wants, though it means that sex is not making me orgasm.
What do i do? Anyone else had this problem?
Why should things be any different, you are nothing but a sex slave. What do you mean you give him bj and won't stop until he tells you even when your mouth hurts? Are you crazy? How old are you? Why do you allow yourself to be abused that way.
Emancipate yourself and kick your master to the curb. He has no respect for you.
Instead of wasting your time being mad at him, ask yourself why you allow this selfish behavior in your bedroom? Stand up for your needs. Tell him NO, or later as he has told you, thats fair. If he strays, or turns else where, you have lost NOTHING!
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