Well I finally kicked the guy to the curb I was with. He was a sex addict(into group,swinging,she males,other men women porn sites, always on the net while with me looking for others) Well I finally said no to him when he wanted to bring a man over and a couple to my place.Then he said he would like to do little girls and I couldn't even see him anymore. I really liked him and thought we could be good together but he was wanting fun(all the kinky and wildest sex he could get he said) then a relationship he said. Well I knew that would never happen. I seem to be just a friend and I want more from a guy and just one guy. I feel bad for not trying to be his friend. He is pissed now said I was playing games and I am screwed up. I told him he was playing games from the start as he knew I wanted a relationship and he is the one screwed up. I do miss talking to him, but I guess its for the best. I hope I did right but cutting him off completely and the little kid thing got to me. My counselor said he is a sex addict -pedophile and is losing control and lost me. I do feel better since I told him, but a part of me still wants him.Tell me I did right. I am so alone and have no one. Is it nuts to miss him? I want to call or email him to tell him why I did this. But I shouldn't I guess. Give me your thoughts on this.

teh threat

"Well I finally kicked the guy to the curb I was with. He was a sex addict(into group,swinging,she males,other men women porn sites, always on the net while with me looking for others) Well I finally said no to him when he wanted to bring a man over and a couple to my place.Then he said he would like to do little girls and I couldn't even see him anymore. I really liked him and thought we could be good together but he was wanting fun(all the kinky and wildest sex he could get he said) then a relationship he said. Well I knew that would never happen. "

You answered your own question. There's a effing ton of people in the world, find another.
Here's an anecdote I like to use. You know how in high school there was always 1-3 really cute guys or girls? Yea, they're soooooo dreamy. Here's something interesting, go to other high schools in the area and you'll find 5 times as many of the same type of attractive person in each building. People are everywhere, just wait and keep looking.

teh threat

Instead of asking "I did right by this?" ask "How could I do wrong?"
You're just choosing to not see someone again, whats wrong with that? He'll find new friends.

Choux

Just some additional comments.........you took a first step toward having ethics/morality...every individual *must have* their own set of ethics in place in order to face the world and come through many compromising people and situations with an ability to respect him/herself......and have happiness. There is no happiness for people with bad ethics/morality. That is their hell, that is their punishment. The Dalai Lama states that having good ethical standards is the *first* requirement for people who want to enjoy happiness in their lives.

This person was a person who wants to or already has abused children. This is unacceptable to Enlightened people's ethics.

Great first step, girl...get yourself in order now!!

Fr_Chuck

My only thought it took way to long to kick him to the curb.

liz28

That guy is sick and I hope is goes to jail for touching litle girls because a sick twisted mind would say something like that, and you want to know if you made the right decision, yes. So why do feel sad you should be shouting be glad you removed yourself from this situation and this move should have happen a long time ago. When I was 22 this guy I was dating asked if I wanted to go to a party with him and I said yes and when we got there anyone was doing it, I turned around and never spoke to him ever again . Also, he the nerves to leave me a voicemail stating I was immature and need to grow up only than did I call him and gave him a piece of my mind and change my number. So dont sob over him because he not worth it and I hope you dont go back to him, let him find someone twisted like him so they both can go to jail.

Xrayman

MMM a little harsh-the last reply, however, addiction to sex can ruin relationships-as evidenced by your take on the situation. I think you did okay-I'm sure you will find someone else who wants to have sex with you and only you.

regards.

kp2171

you did the right thing. were you with a caring lover right now, you wouldnt be second guessing yourself.

and the fact he talked about pedophilia... that he isnt a grease spot on the wall is a shame.

so all thats keeping you within his reach is your beang a little lonely and missing the comfort of being with someone. thats not reason to stay with a manipulative jerk who isnt interested in your emotional needs.

dont call or talk to him. it will only keep you within that reach longer... and he knows how to manipulate to get what he wants even when it isnt what you want.

twinkiedooter

Forget this guy and try not to think about him. He is a sick puppy saying that YOU played games. Ha! He's looking at getting himself into a lot of trouble with the law if he doesn't stop doing what he's doing. You did the right thing in my mind. Now stay the h*ll away from him, ok?

talaniman

You did right and showed take the lesson of being a lot more cautious, selective, and know them a lot better, before you get in so deep.