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Why doesn't my boyfriend of 7 years want to have sex with me?

Asked Jun 18, 2011, 05:04 PM — 4 Answers
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years now. It started off okay for a couple of months, I wans't a lot but we had sex. Then later on we had sex maybe once every three months. Then after that it went down hill, I would have keep asking him, its like I was begging my man for sex. We would have oral sex once in a while that's the most I could get out of him. We talk and our relationship is good other wise but when I talk to him about sex, he would get upset, or ignore, he does not want to talk about it. And its been like this for 5 years now and if I would touch his privates he pushes me away and gets upset. I love him, he tells me he loves me so what's the problem, we laugh we have fun together. I asked him to go to the doctor he doesn't want to. I just want him to tell me what's wrong, I feel like I am the problem. In a way I think he is not interesed in me anymore, and sometimes I just feel like leaving him. Can anyone help me please? (I tried to keep it short)
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Jun 18, 2011, 05:09 PM
If he absolutely, positively, unequivocally won't talk to you about it or see a professional about it, won't even give you a hint as to why he's acting like this, then it's time for you to leave.
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Jun 18, 2011, 06:19 PM
I was reading this and it just like my life but we started with great sex every day now its been 2 yr. Of nothing. We been together for 7 yr this Nov. I know how youe feel I feel the same way
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Jun 18, 2011, 07:03 PM
How old are the two of you?

Age may be a factor and we need to confirm your age before we answer.
Together 7 years tells me you are old enough , hopefully you were older than 12 or 13 when you got together.
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Jul 22, 2011, 08:09 PM
I certainly understand how you feel other than the sex my boyfriend laughs with me, we have fun, do evrything together, I believe it is phycological and your boyfriend needs help, but like everything in life unless he wants to get help no one not even you can help him ....I also use to feel it was me and cry my self to sleep...I also wish that he would go to counseling because it really hurts and I want so badly to be intimate with him , but no way I feeel torn to say with him or leave because all the other aspects of our being together is good. He is older than I 69 years old.... I feel I need help too to cope and I am seriously thinking of going to a couselor. I can only given yo comfort in it is not you and maybe you also can get some help for you. Signed Know how you feel....
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