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    Sundance2007 Posts: 6, Reputation: -1
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    Apr 25, 2009, 03:38 AM
    Why does She refuse Sex ?
    I am a much older man, than the girl who came to stay with me in a shared accommodation. She was open to discussing many things, including sexual relationships in the past. On my advice she also shaved her pubic hair, and wore some dresses of my choice. She also allowed me to feel up her skirt, and her breasts. But refused to have sex. WHY ?
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    Apr 25, 2009, 04:30 AM

    Maybe she doesn't feel ready to have sex. How old is this girl?

    Not everyon wants to just jump straight into bed with someone. It takes time, love and most of all trust.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 04:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Sundance2007 View Post
    I am a much older man, than the girl who came to stay with me in a shared accomodation. She was open to discussing many things, including sexual relationships in the past. On my advice she also shaved her pubic hair, and wore some dresses of my choice. She also allowed me to feel up her skirt, and her breasts. But refused to have sex. WHY ?
    She is probably just not that into you, or you are that much older that she doesn't find the idea appealing. She is teasing you in a horrible way. Why do you bother ?

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    Apr 25, 2009, 07:10 AM

    You say you are older, and call her a "girl", it makes me believe she is too young, and you shouldn't be doing ANYthing with her. She doesn't want sex with you, stop trying.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:07 AM

    How do you know she shaved her pubic hair?

    This girl sounds like she is playing games with you because I don't understand why she is doing everything you suggest her to do. This sounds strange especially since she is your roommate.

    Leave her alone. It's her choice whether if she wants to hacde sex with you.

    I don't know why but don't try to make her do something she doesn't want to.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:11 AM

    Because you're a predator, of course she does not want sex. Leave her alone.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Jesushelper76 View Post
    Because your a predator, of course she does not want sex. Leave her alone.
    Joe. What if she's 20. She's an adult now. I think this girl is teasing and probably wants something out of him, maybe money, clothes, who knows-- there are girls out there "sell" their bodies in order to get something and most of the time "older" guys are the ones that fall for it.

    Just how I see it.

    Sarah
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:22 AM

    You better stop it before you get kicked out and or have some legal problems behind it.

    However, some how I think she enjoys the attention your giving her but not ready to have sex with you because I wouldn't be letting you feel me up.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:30 AM

    You better watch yourself...
    A. either you're a predator
    (or)
    B. She is about to set you up in a big lawsuit


    Your best move is to get her out if its your place and find a older/mature adult to room with.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:37 AM
    She is using you, stringing you along, setting you up, and giving you signals that she is interested in a sexual way.

    You on the other hand, as you said, at your request, shaved her pubic hair, and engages in conversations about both of your sexual relationships of the past.

    Because she is in 'shared' accommodation, I presume she is a legal consenting adult.

    Because you are 'much older' than this girl, it is totally innapropriate to have sexual conversations with this girl- at all.

    It is downright creepy that you asked her to shave her pubic hair, and choose dresses for her to wear.

    That she is leading you on by being a willing participant does not make it right, or that you should expect sex to follow.

    Both of you need to smarten up, and stop this game. She needs to find people her own age to play games with, and you need to find someone your own age to have an appropriate relationship with.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Sundance2007 View Post
    . On my advice she also shaved her pubic hair, and wore some dresses of my choice. She also allowed me to feel up her skirt, and her breasts.?
    I wouldn't be so hasty and presumptious as to call the OP a predator. He is being goaded and teased. Why would this young person allow him to touch her anywhere, dress as requested, shave her pubic hair as requested. She is playing with him, playing with fire and I think she knows full well what she is doing. She mayget more then she bargains for (I know he calls her a girl, but to him, being older, she probably looks that way and could be 25 or 30).

    Lets not jump to conclusions.

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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:43 AM

    Ok, if I went into a shared accommodation living situation with an older man... I would by no means want to have sex with him and if "he" suggested it... I would more then likely run the other direction. She sounds of age but extremely young and you shouldn't pursue it if she is showing no interest of advance. Chances are she needs someone to help her on her way... she could be using you to get what she wants but not actually taking out steps to think about how this is really going to affect her. Maybe she is thinking about it and changed her mind? I would leave it be and if you can't be friends with her then I suggest you find another living arrangement.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by xoxaprilwine View Post

    Just the thought of some fat, grey, harry, gropey, saggy old man on top of me gives me the ebbygeebies.

    Sorry...that's how I feel and I hope I didn't offend anyone.

    He said he was older...
    Listening to some of the people around the forum, "older" can be anywhere from 30-90 and him referring to her as younger could mean that she is anywhere from 18-25.

    Unless the OP tells us their ages we can't really judge on that :)
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:47 AM

    Hi xox,I don't think she is playing with a full deck if she even considered shared accommodation with an older man. How many young women would do this, even if they didn't have two cents to rub together. Very unprincipled and immature I think.

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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:53 AM

    Xoxaprilwine I agree with you. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone I live with but lines how already been crossed. I wouldn't let my roommate feel all up on me either. So I wonder why she does and why she follows his suggestions. This whole situation is weird but I believes she loves teasing him.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by liz28 View Post
    Xoxaprilwine I agree with you. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone I live with but lines how already been crossed. I wouldn't let my roommate feel all up on me either. So I wonder why she does and why she follows his suggestions. This whole situation is weird but I believes she loves teasing him.
    HAHAHA... I missed that thread. My husband always sings to me "Tequila makes her clothes fall off"... no wonder he buys it for me when we go out.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 10:00 AM

    Or it could be that she has been abused in the past? Or treated in a certain way by men. Maybe she is looking for attention but not sex. Some people do things to please the people they are around especially if they are helping them out.

    But please read what the op said, But refused to have sex. WHY ?
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    Apr 25, 2009, 10:02 AM

    Agreed... I really don't think she thought about what she was doing? Or maybe this is her way of maintaining control or power over him "with seduction" because she has what he wants and she will squeeze everything she can before he wises up; then its "Hey, move on to the next one".

    Where is this chicks dad? Growing up problem; maybe he wasn't around? - Jesushelper... I think you have a valid point.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 10:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by xoxaprilwine View Post
    HAHAHA...I missed that thread. My husband always sings to me "Tequila makes her clothes fall off"... no wonder he buys it for me when we go out.
    Hehe! He knows exactly what he is doing.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 10:16 AM

    Older men and young girls don't mix...
    Besides most men knows its better to "hook up" with an older woman, and I don't need to go into details if you know what I mean.

    This all could be nothing but whay take the chance... get away before things get ugly.
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