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    Why does my boyfriend never want to have sex

    Asked Jun 25, 2007, 08:25 PM 6 Answers
    My boyfriend never wants to have sex. I always have to be the one to initiate it. Very rarely does he come on to me. Sometimes he won't even let me touch his penis or give him a blow job to get him in the mood! I thought all men enjoy blowjobs! If it were up to him we might have sex once every 2 weeks. I feel unattractive and rejected. I know its not me, I have men ask me out every day. I have a fan club of men, as my boyfriend likes to say. He says I'm too promiscuous and he's not in the mood or too tired. The thing is I live in another town and we only see each other on the weekends so Im not asking 4 it every day, but I'm moving in with him in 2 weeks and I know its not going to get any better. I know he wouldn't cheat on me and he is such an awesome person. He's really thoughtful and a one of a kind person. Not too many people like him, male or female. Does he need meds. How can I even convince him to go to the Dr? He can be very stubborn. Leaving him is not an option I love this man so much. This is the person I want to spend my life with but I don't know if I can deal with the forever. He says sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship and I agree. But it is an important part, right? Or am I just too horny and selfish? Is every other night too much to ask for? I would take more but I'm trying to be reasonable. I told him our relationship is fairly new and once the newness wears off I won't bother him as much. He has told me I don't have the body he's usually attracted to. He is 35 and he usually goes for older woman. Im 25. I have people tell me all the time how beautiful I am and Im a 36dd but he's a booty man. In fact he has an obsession with butts. He said that my body doesn't attract him, but he loves my face. And that when he's with me, my looks make HIM look good!I feel like Im begging. Actually I do beg and pout! Help!!
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    Xrayman Posts: 1,178, Reputation: 192
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    Jun 25, 2007, 09:10 PM
    I get the feeling that he feels you may be too flirty etc. (this is because of your great looks and age) this is a worry for him so he avoids you-you are probably not cheating, but he thinks you may be. This will put some men off-especially if they feel not as "up to par" as the other men you attract.

    I also wonder if there is a performance anxiety issue with him, maybe?

    If not, then he's missing out on the delights of you and your body-his loss.

    Maybe you need to "look after your needs" for a while without pressuring him-to have a relationship without sex may hurt you -you might have to tell him how you feel-that this no-sex thing makes you want to look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction.-I reckon he will listen-if not, then maybe he's not the man for you.

    Cheers
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    Jun 25, 2007, 09:59 PM
    Seems like he is intimidated to me...
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    Jun 26, 2007, 04:32 AM
    Your avarage man DOES love blowjobs... you do need to convince him to see a Dr. because stress levels high enough to put you off sex are definitely going to be bad for his health.

    Another issue.. with "newness" of a relationship most guys are at their horniest.

    Booty man or not I don't know many guys that don't go goo-goo eyed at a pair of 36DD's.
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    Jun 26, 2007, 06:02 AM
    Has he always been like this, even in previous relationships? Some people just have a low sex drive, and it gets even worse when they are stressed.
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    Jun 26, 2007, 06:37 AM
    Being honest... I don't like to have sex a lot.. because I hate to shower... thats just me.. but to have sex once.. or twice a day lets say.. + the 2 showers I normally take.. that just drys out my skin and makes me an unhappy person.. and it honestly makes me tell my man no.
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    Jun 26, 2007, 09:40 AM
    Ever think he may be wondering about his sexuality?. 36dd and he doesn't want sex? There is a issue here and u really should figure it out
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