me and my bf has been dating for a year now, we use to have the best sex and as time went by he started loosing intrest. and about a week ago he just burst out and we went on for hours. but what botherd me was that for more than half the time i had to either using my finger on his anal area and my vibrator. i wasn't shocked till after. so is he gay? and i think he dreams about it to. im scared to lose him to something like that. please help me!!!

Choux

Sounds like he wants to go places sexually that you don't want to go to.

If you want to have the exciting newness of romantic encounters, you will have to find another boyfriend.

talaniman

So you had a good time until you thought about it, and now your wondering? he may be gay, for liking what he likes, but what does it say about you liking to finger him like that? Hey there is plenty of room, for a wide variety of people, and there pleasure. The thing is he is enjoying his sex with you. After hours of fun, you could try talking to him. you know sharing a cigarette, and some conversation?

hollylovesbrandon

I don't think you should JUMP right into the whole "is he gay" question. He might just be wanting to experiment sexually. If this moment bothered you, i would suggest speaking to him about it. Ask him why he all of a sudden likes that kind of stuff. Ask him if he wants to experiment then to just let you know in the future.

talaniman

If you can't talk honestly with the one you have sex with, who can you talk to? See how he feels, and end this speculation. " I thought only gay guys liked that, I guess I was wrong". It's the how you approach it, that makes a difference. " Are you gay?" might not work. Tactfully tell him your thoughts. He is with you, so he can't be too gay, right?

smoothy

He is just pretty open minded....if he was gay he'd be going out to get the real thing. What I think is the case you are a little bit less adventurous at this stage of your life than he is.

You both enjoyed it, and you enjoy each others company.....why ruin it by over analyzing things.

Xrayman

So does this mean that if you love to be licked-YOU are lesbian???

If he is gay you wouldn't be sharing his bed/having sex with him. Yes strangely enough some of us like to experiment with different feelings and sensations when we have sex-it does not mean we are gay.

Grand Chilokar

He likes those types of things so take advantage. ask him to do some things with you. try oral things to make it even maybe you wont feel so insecure