When having sex , intercorse or oral , I cant seem to relax and have that big O , I have lots of little ones and I get very wet . My boyfriend is very good at taking his time with me , were very open with each other and enjoy all kinds of things such as lite bondage , forceplay and well the list goes on , but for some reason just as I'm at the edge and ready to *** hard... it STOPS! I don't know if I am tighting up too much or what , he tells me I just need to relax and let it happen but I am trying at least I think I am or I just don't know how to relax! I also squirt but only if I use a toy (dildo) he has watched me to see how I do it but he still cant make me do it either , with a toy or him. BTW I am 44 yrs old and we are a new couple , been together for about 5 mo only and I am very very comfortable with him, but I have always been this way and I am sick of it! Please help me .