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Im a 20 year old college student. I was never really a sexual person. The thought of sex and having sex with random girls was never in my head. The first time i masterbated was in 8th grade, i only did it since "everyone else in my grade was". After that it was like i was addicted. I masterbated everyday if not more. Probably on average from about 8th grade to senior year i was doing it about once a day. After i lost my virginity and had sex with the same girl for a little over a year. Wed do it like 3 or 4 times a day sometimes at first. After a while we calmed down and did it about every day or every otherday. Probably about 7 months into the realtionship i started masterbating becuase her pleasing me sexaully just wasnt enough. Now 2 years after i lost my virginity i found myself hooking up with 4 different girls this semester in 4 weeks... which some guys would be like good job. But the thing is thats not how i wanna be. On days that i dont get laid i find my self masterbating everytime my roomates outta the room. For the last year ive proabbly been masterbating about 3x a day. I produce alot of *** when i masterbate each time also. But its kinda a problem because i like to talk about sex and stuff like that only, and thats all girls think i want. when i have sex with a condum on, it sucks so i just do the pull out and hope she dont get pregnant thing. One of the girls i was able to have sex with a condum on but that was because i actually liked her and she actually liked me. thats about the only time sex with a condum feels good to me, and well i just cant find a girl like that becuase i always find myself just trying to get down any girls pants when put in the position of should i go farther or not, i try to control myself the best i can, but still i end up doing it. The other day i had masterbated 5x. After masterbating one of my freinds told me she wanted to come over and have some fun. She came over about 15 minutes after that and we jumped right into having sex. She told me she could kinda tell that i was having problems staying hard and stuff, but i was still able to have sex with her for about 20 minutes, and we both climaxed. It was fun, and felt good, but the next day i still masterbated another 3x. I really dont know whats wrong with me. Why am i so sexualy driven, and is thier like some type of antiviagra i could take, so that i could find the right girl for me. Ive been single for 2 years, and really dont wanna have multiple sex partners, ive always tried to wait for the right girl, but since march i believe ive slept with about 11 different girls, most of them being one night stands... i also ended up picking up chlymedia, and was able to not masterbate in that period becuase it caused pain, but i still found myself wanting to, and doing it on occasion regardless of the pain, just so i could feel the pleasure of getting off, which ended up being more painful becuase of the disease, I refused to let myself be put in a sitaution where i could spread the disease though, and thats when i really wished i could have gone farther because a girl i had my eye on was looking to have sum fun with me, and i ignored her all night because i knew how i am, and fater that she lost interest in me. and i didnt wanna admit to anyone that i had the disease. now i really dont care. But is thier like something wrong with me, and what about in the future, am i just never gonna wanna have sex, because i pleased myself so much while i was younger?
I dont think masterbating a lot is a problem... but it sounds like it is effecting your life.... and you are making decisions that are against yuour morals and you will go through pain to do it as well... that to me sounds like a problem. I would recommend going online and looking up groups for sexual addiction. I will do so also and let you know what i find....
It sounds like you have way too much time on your hands (no pun intended). To break this cycle you need to do other things and change some of the females you hang around. Learn to leave the 'easy' ones alone and say no. Center your life around solid constructive activities and for your own good get a few hobbies. Anything that gets you out of the house and and around healthy wholesome people would take some of that idle time off your hands. Anything that causes a problem in your life then seek help with and a counsellor or a trusted adult male friend to talk to would be a wise thing to pursue. I really don't know where sex addicts go but will try to find out.Get busy and good luck.
Its not that I have that much free time, I spend alot of time studying, but my roomate on the other hand spends his time studying in the library! I stayed up till 5 am last night with him so i wouldnt be alone in the room for a couple hours with nothing better to do then study and whatever. I really dont see why i am so addicted to sex. I honestly dont even like the sex i have with the girls i do it with. Its pleasing yes, but I like sex alot more when its with someone i care about, maybe that could be part of the issue...
I have had a few friends who have been addicted to masturbating, and it is an addiction... it is good that you are seeking help your past that really hard first step.. my best friend tried the whole 40 days and 40 nights he lasted 3 1/2 weeks and he kept trying until he got to the 40.. He is doing pretty good he only goes on himself like 1 time a week...
my suggestion to you is:
-Seek help/ find someone you can talk to
-Limit yourself with no exceptions ( start off slow like twice a day for 2 weeks then once a day for 2 weeks until you are going 2 weeks with out anything sexual.
If you are afraid of loosing your sexual drive then stop masturbating and casual date.. being with a girl does not mean you have to have sex! remember that... And like Talaniman said change the girls you are hanging out with.. you never know what you can catch... and that goes with never ever do it with out a condom unless you are wanting to get her pregnant and if you trust her not to have AIDS or any other STD that is non curable.. you need to be careful there is a lot of non- curable STDS going around right now... Always were a condom always!
I really dont think its masterbation in general, its more like sex in general, becuase sex is what i look for in general, at parties i find myself no longer talking to girls that arent going to do anything, ive basicly gotten to the point where i can tell if im gonna get iwht a girl or not in the night, and if im not i kidna just go home and pass out, or trying to call a girl that i know will give me some and have her over! But after having sex im good for the night, i dont get why im so addicted to sex in general!
I really dont think that i nee to seek professional help. I think its just that i need to spend more time outta my room alone so when i get broed im not like well why not do that since i have nothing better to do. I tried that today and so far its been working out pretty good, and i havent had sex on my mind really that much!
well there is your answer. Find other things to do beside masturbate and look for sex.
go for a run. It may be built up energy that you could best use getting fit and improving yourself physically! Not just your forearm! Sorry.
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