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im getting really worried, my boyfriend tells me all the time he loves me and that he doesnt want to come across as a sex pest, which to be honest considering he has such a high sex drive he does come across like that.
thing that bothers me most though is when im on my period, hes getting really sexually frustrated, which makes me feel bad, as if its my fault, when its not as i don't choose to have periods! he says we could have anal sex when im on, but to be honest i don't feel comfortable with that as it embarrasses me already that im on.
im just wondering if other girls experience this behvaiour from their fellas when they are on, and how they deal with it. i cant go on having him getting annoyed at me. maybe its his true colours showing through.
my biggest problem is, this guy is perfect, im madly madly madly in love with him, he is perfect in everyway, accept he has a high sex drive, and i dont want to dump him for that as ive come round and usually give it him everyday, accept when im on?!
Guy should be understanding your on your period. If not, well tell him to go masterbate. Or you could do that if you feel comfortable doing that to him even though you will not get any satisfaction.
Anal sex, you do not feel comfortable with do not do it.
BY THE WAY, PLEASE LISTEN CAREFULLY NO ONE, AND I MEAN NO WAS IS PERFECT.
It is normal for couples to have different sex drives I just hope that you know that you should never feel pressured into doing things because you do not have a understanding partner.
ok i do know no one is perfect and i shouldnt have said that, as that is a favourite phrase of mine, but for me this guy is nearly perfect, we come from the same sort of background, have loads in common, but a lot of differences which we are teaching each other to be more interested in which i like, we love being together and usually he is really understanding, but when it comes to sex, its as if he is selfish and only thinks about himself, but then i feel bac saying that cos we havent done anythin i feel uncomfortable with and we havent rushed things, its just when he wants sex he wants sex and if i say no hes not happy at all, i just feel its going to be an issue, yet i dont want to end it cos of it, cos in all fairness its probably not a very big issue, but it will be if he kicks up a fuss every time in on!
Tell ya what--this is what I've told guys to make them shut up about it:
I am perfectly willing to give you head the week I am on my period, with no personal satisfaction, and a great deal of frustration on my part IF HE is willing to take the week after and give me oral with no personal satisfaction and a great deal of frustration on HIS part. In other words--I'll get him off the week I'm on, without worrying about ME getting off---but the week I come off my period, he has to do that same thing--get ME off without worrying about himself.
Every guy I ever presented this scenario to shut up about it after that.
granted, i'm a 21 year old college student...so i have a relatively high sex drive...but being frustrated during a period...that's a bit too far. i'm perfectly ok with waiting 4 - 5 days....
As a guy speaking he should be understanding....wife doesn't ignore me during those days, we just don't do it conventionaly because of the mess. She takes care of me orally. IF thats not your bag he can do what he did before he met you. Make a date for a group session with Rosie Palmer and her 4 sisters.