I dont have an interest in having sex with my spouse, even though he does everything on me, like kissing sucking, etc, i enjoy it so much and whenever he touches me i feel unhappy, and he is the nicest man any woman can ask for, the hardest aprt is i dont allow him to kiss me anymore and it just hapened and i dont plan for it, whenever i make myself ready for him, the interest goes away whe he touches me, what should i do?

faye_arv

Are you having problems with your spouse, is there tension that gets in the way of your love making? How are you feeling in general. Are you sad, maybe depressed or is it just your spouse that makes you uninterested? My personal opinion is that 1. either you have some form of depression, 2. you have problems with your spouse and they are getting in the way, 3. you're not in love anymore or bored with the routine, 4. or it could be hormonal if you don't want sex in general.

Whatever it is, maybe you should talk to your spouse, tell him/her how you feel. You can work it out but it's not always easy if you do it on your own. With patience and love everything is possible.

talaniman

You have a lot of nerve, in my opinion. Your problem can be easily solved by not cheating, on focusing on your marriage.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...us-154104.html

Or is this why your cheating?

faye_arv

I think you're getting a bit ahead of yourself here. She never said that she is cheating on him or that she cheated. She said that even though she wants to be sexually aroused by him, she just isn't!. Most likely she should see a doctor not get abused or made to feel guilty for feeling this way!

N0help4u

Faye
in the link talaiman posted
she didn't say she wasn't aroused she just said they held back. She also asked why is HE pulling back. Which in any case she says they were naked together and hugging and kissing so my guess is that COULD be enough for her to be obsessing over him and distracted from her affection for her husband.

450donn

See a doctor as soon as possible to rule out a medical condition. How old are you? As people age their hormone levels change, causing a lowering in sexual desires.

talaniman

I guess her cheating has nothing to do with it?

Tuscany

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...us-154104.html

Could it be because when you are with him you feel guilty for cheating on him.

thanks for the link T

mylovec

It does nothing to do with cheating, believe you me, i am done with it, even before, that is the feeling i had and still have, i might confess here, maybe it was one of the things that drove with the other married man, and not any more, the thing i am asking here is whats wrong with me? i am not sexually attracted to him anymore,

talaniman

A lot more backgound of you, and the relationship is needed. As much as you care to share.