ok, im in a relationship and i know my boyfriend watches porn, sometimes we can be having a dirty conversation and he will say porn is calling me, sometimes he will give me the option and say will you talk dirty or should i watch porn. it worries me coz i presume he watches it every night before bed, and my friends all tell me its normal and it shouldnt bother me, but i feel like ill never be good enough. also worried as i presume thats where he gets his ideas from for wild sex or dirty sex or some of the other things he says, and im not like that, im more than happy to have sex but im sure i would be into anal, coming on my face, dressing up and role plays etc. is porn ruining him? or am i otally overracting like my mates say i am?

raggablue

porn is mainly gross, but erotica is completely different, art for arts sake.

EIFS EXPERT

I would rather have sex with a real woman then with digital media any day.

Synnen

Porn IS erotica, you know.

It's just not necessarily what YOU find attractive.

I'll say what I've always said: Any woman that wants her man to give up porn completely has to give up love stories and romance novels. They are fantasies of love that are unrealistic, and porn is fantasies of sex that are unrealistic--both for the MOST part.

And yeah--it IS about your self-esteem. If you don't like him hiding stuff and lying to you--then either confront him or leave. Seriously--relationships are about trust and communication. If you don't have both, and an understanding of what the other person wants--then you don't have much of a relationship, really.

Again--moderation is the key here. NEEDING porn is an addiction. NEEDING alcohol is an addiction. WANTING either is a nice release, in moderation.

smoothy

Again...I find myself in complete agreement here. Can't say it any better.

EIFS EXPERT

good point