At what point is the husband unfaithful?

Pushtumpa · #1 Jul 1, 2009, 05:20 AM

My question is this:

at what part in this scenario is the husband unfaithful:

1. Husband smiles at girl in bar
2. Husband chats to girl in bar
3. Husband flirts with girl in bar
4. Husband touches arm of girl in bar
5. Husband touches leg of girl in bar
6. Husband touches of girl in bar
7. Husmand masturbates in shower, thinking of the girl he met in the bar
8. Husband has`sex with wife but thinks of the the girl he met in bar
9. Husband has oral sex with girl he met in bar
10 Husband has sex with girl he met in bar

NeedKarma · Jul 1, 2009, 05:24 AM

I'll go with #9.

smoothy · Jul 1, 2009, 05:26 AM

I'd say #9 as well.

liz28 · Jul 1, 2009, 05:34 AM

I will say 8, 9, and 10. Lines started getting crossed at 6.

Pushtumpa · Jul 1, 2009, 06:17 AM

So my wife cannot complain if I flirt all night with girls in bars?

danielnoahsmommy · Jul 1, 2009, 06:19 AM

she can still think you are being an . weigh your options flirt and you may have a price to pay with your wife.

smoothy · Jul 1, 2009, 06:22 AM

I said #9 because I do know a lot of people that are touchy feely types, who are just that way...and #8, well, thats just fantasy...and everyone fantasizes at some point. Men and women. Its normal. And who needs the thought police telling us what to think, and when anyway. That rationalizes my pick.

ZoeMarie · Jul 1, 2009, 06:23 AM

Well sure she can complain. I wouldn't like it if my husband flirted with other girls. Just because it's not cheating doesn't mean your wife should be happy with it.

NeedKarma · Jul 1, 2009, 06:25 AM

I'm a flirt. It never goes anywhere. My wife is ok with it. Of course I'm rarely in bars.

N0help4u · Jul 1, 2009, 07:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pushtumpa

So my wife cannot complain if I flirt all night with girls in bars?

She can complain.

I say unfaithful starts at #9 but if your intentions and desires are focused on other women then your unfaithfulness starts in your heart before #1,

So to me the way I see it is
There are guys that go with the little bit of flirting and don't mean anything by it.
Then there are guys who have it in them to flirt and see just how far they can take it.

Motives and the desires of your heart are the only thing that can answer the question where unfaithfulness starts for you.
If it bothers your wife then you should take that into consideration and show her respect.
You may not mean anything by it but to her it may feel awkward and an insult to her feelings.



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