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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, for a long time it was long distance but i've been living with him for the past 2 months. Our relationship is great, even sexually it's great. We have sex all the time and there's no real big complaints. The only issue I've have is that he seems so disinterested when I give him head or am riding on top. It seems like he's thinking waaay to much and just not getting into it and sometimes he'll even start going soft. However when I give him head when we 69 he's all about it and into it, and when he's on top or doing it doggystyle he's all into it and get's all kinky etc but none of that when I'm leading the show you know. The reason it's bothering me is because he says I need to initiate sex more. He's right I do usually just wait till he's horny even though I want it, the reason I don't initiate often is it's frustrating when it seems like he's not even interested unless he's running the show and really honestly makes me Self-conscious as hell. It's fantastic sweaty awesome kinky sex when he runs the show, but drab boring when I do, and I can't seem to get him to respond, and I've never had this kind of problem w/ a guy before. Does anyone know what the problem could be or how to fix it? A guys perspective would really help.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, for a long time it was long distance but i've been living with him for the past 2 months. Our relationship is great, even sexually it's great. We have sex all the time and there's no real big complaints. The only issue I've have is that he seems so disinterested when I give him head or am riding on top. It seems like he's thinking waaay to much and just not getting into it and sometimes he'll even start going soft. However when I give him head when we 69 he's all about it and into it, and when he's on top or doing it doggystyle he's all into it and get's all kinky etc but none of that when I'm leading the show you know. The reason it's bothering me is because he says I need to initiate sex more. He's right I do usually just wait till he's horny even though I want it, the reason I don't initiate often is it's frustrating when it seems like he's not even interested unless he's running the show and really honestly makes me Self-conscious as hell. It's fantastic sweaty awesome kinky sex when he runs the show, but drab boring when I do, and I can't seem to get him to respond, and I've never had this kind of problem w/ a guy before. Does anyone know what the problem could be or how to fix it? A guys perspective would really help.
!!! Girl...even though im a guy and still a virgin...i wouldn't let ne1 me with orders. i mean omg! stand up to ur self... if he's just getting into ur pants... dump him out!!!!!!! dont let him take advantage of you!!! be a woman u were born to be!!! be ur self and respect ur body!!!! becuz 1 day...u'll wake up with a big stomach and the baby wont have a daddy... make a right choice.... have sex when ur ready to choose ur future.ur right future!!! thats all i gatta say.
As far as taking the lead and then letting him run the show I do, but then he'll want me on top etc. Then he'll be seeming uninterested then it ruins it for me, then he'll finally take the lead..lol It's frustrating. Maybe your right though Pook Myster , he'll always try to hold out as long as he can and I told him before don't worry about it. I guess he's got that macho guy thing going where he has to last as long as possible. I've tried explaining to him that it I get as much fun out of making him feel good as he does doing it to me. I guess i'm weird, most chicks wouldn't be complaining..lol.
Have you asked him about this? No one here is going to be able to tell you what is going through his head or why he seems disinterested. You really should talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel. Maybe he's enjoying it more then you think and you are being a bit self consious? Or maybe he's expecting you to be more kinky. He's the only one who can tell you how much he is or isn't enjoying it and why or why not. My advice? Ask him. Don't be shy about it. I know sometimes it's hard to approach the subject of sex, but I believe in a healthy relationship communication is key and you should be able to talk about everything. Talking about sex outside of the bedroom can't hurt. Or...start it out by asking him what he likes you to do when you are on top and what turns him on.
Well... Ok I Had This Issue Before... Kinda... My Boyfriend And I Have Been Together For 2 And A Half Years And In The Beginning I Never Initiated The Sex He Always Did And Then He Just Stopped And He Would Make Me.. The Only Reason He Would Make Me Is To Get It Started After I Got It Started He Woiuldnt Let Me Get On Top... He Would Always Do All The Work
Some Men including myself think more about making his Lady happy then himself. He needs to learn its a two way street and making you happy is letting you have your way with him at times. Let him know in a round about way how much you enjoy taking control and how it makes you soooooooooo excited. Watching a movie where a Lady is in control is a good place to bring it up to him. Its doesn't have to be sexual control for it to open the door for you.
Give him some time and teach him, in the long run you will both be able to make each other happy for years to .
I agree with the post that says to talk to him about it but be gentle not accusing because the truth I believe is that he is trying to hold back and not blow his jam and at the same time trying to be macho about it. Probably after you discusss it with him he will calm down and then you can ride till you run out of gas.
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