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Old Jul 22, 2007, 04:35 AM
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Ok, first off, I do already have a girlfriend. The other day, another friend of mine was in town (who happens to be a female) and she said she had broken up with her boyfriend about four months ago. While she was in town, she and I were chatting and she said she badly want to get laid, seens how I have a girlfriend, I guess I really didn't pick up on what she meant at that moment. On the drive back to where she was staying (another friends house) She came right out and said "would you f*** me?" I looked at her in surprise, and almost rear ended the car in front of me. She told me it would be "Just a friendly f***, and she didn't want a relationship with me" I am completely dumfounded, what do I tell her?
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Old Jul 22, 2007, 04:37 AM   #2  
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by the way, we are both the same age, and we have known each other a long time.

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Topmodel agrees: She doesnt respect you as a friend and age doesnt mean anything. If she was mature she wouldnt of asked an idiotic question like that
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Old Jul 22, 2007, 04:42 AM   #3  
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Dont do it. If it is a real friend, she will respect that you have a girlfriend. I wish one of my friends would disrespect me and make a suggestion like that. I would drop them off at the nearest bus stop and tell them dont call me anymore because they have no morals.

How dare she ask you that, knowing that it would hurt your woman? But she doesnt care. Plus if its just friendly effing, then why dont she just go get laid by some man at a club or something? Why wont she just go play with herself? I mean if thats all. People like that get on my everlasting nerves with mess like that. She needs to be trying to figure out how she can be a better person instead of trying to put you in the same situation she's in. Wow! Friends these days arent what they're cracked up to be. lmao
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Old Jul 22, 2007, 04:49 AM   #4  
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I'm just worried about losing her as a friend if I say "hit the road" so to speak, but I also dont want to cheat on my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend have already talked about this situation, its like my way of letting her know whats going on all the time I hang out with her. She we are just friends, and she has met her before, but now I'm even worried to hang out with her, thinking my girlfriend might make assumptions or what not. So, when she needs a ride somewhere, I either have my girlfriend take her, or let her take my bike.
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Difinitely. It sucks but real friends wouldnt try to put you in a situation like that. My boyfriend has had a few of his friends say things like that and he has called them on the phone in my presents and told each one of them that they dont respect him nor me enough to continue a friendship. these are women he's known for over 7 yrs and went to college with.

Friends like that come and go. Its not worth the negativity. I know you probably want to bang her. Thats how us humans are. We want to do stuff but wont do it because of someone elses feelings being hurt. If you wasnt with your girlfriend now, you would probably do it. Its the nature of the beast.

But.... Consequences are hell when you look back at the situation after its done and realize what you've lost behind a stupid decision. I've never cheated on anyone but unfortunately its always happened to me. You will regret it. Especially if your current girlfriend is good to you. Not every woman is willing to work out being cheated on. Especially a good woman with morals. She knows she's better than that
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Simple answer really.

Tell her that you are flattered that she wants you in that way, but you have a girlfriend and you are not the cheating kind.
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Tell her no. Tell her you are just friends with her and that you have a girlfriend and you do not want to be a f---buddy, that is not what you want.
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True. That's the thing, but even if I was single, I would still have t think about it. But I could never cheat on my girlfriend, and I think I'm lucky that I have one that is so understanding with a topic like this, and is able to have a serious conversation with, without being accused of anything on the spot. We have pretty much been living by the "no secrets, no B.S" rule. One day we sat down and really learned a lot about each other, I told her things that at first I didn't want to tell her, but we got past it, and she told me things she had secrets about. So if I were to cheat on her, I would probably feel worse than she would.

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dcole agrees: Good for you - sounds like love! Cherish that.
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