| if you are the one watching porn you should consider a few things...
1) does it help or hurt your sexual relationship in the bedroom. if its taking sexual energy away, either mentally distracting you from your partner, or physically hurting you (masturbation "fatigue"), its not good if you are interested in keeping the relationship healthy. personally, i think it can desensitize too many people to be helpful, while some couples certainly find it fun to share. personal opinion, most porn probably "teaches" people terrible habits and rituals about sex that often just dont work well physically for most and then wind up being a mental block. those who can be mentally stimulated without trying to emulate dumb, ineffective postitions or situations are probably just fine.
2) how does your partner feel about it? if you are hiding it, its a wall you are putting up. not to say all great relationships are 100% open honestly... my partner hasnt told me when she masturbated last, instead of waiting for me... but im guessing she has recently. ok. she can have that "secret" and still not have it affect our relationship. shes still attentive, loving, giving, etc...
but if your partner would be hurt if they found your stash or found out... and you KNOW it would hurt them... then you are walking on eggshells.
not going to tell you not to do it... but you know if you are doing something that would hurt your partner behind his/her back... then you arent thinking in their best interest or in the interest of the relationship.
sooo....
the OP doesnt tell much info... whats up? just feeling a little overboard? just wondering? been burned? more info. |