My Fiance and I have had a threesome before with another woman, a close friend of mine. It was nice we both really enjoyed it. But it was in the beggining of our relationship when we had no emotionmal attachments it was just purely physical.

Well I've been wanting to hae a threesome with another guy but he says it will make him uncomfortable and wont do it. How do I convince him or am I wrong for even trying?

progunr

I advise you against it, unless you don't care about your fiance'?

Try doing a search here for "threesomes" and read some of the stories.

I think you will learn a lot from others experiences.

Synnen

You don't "convince" anyone to do something they are not comfortable with, especially sexually.

If he's not into it, and you've had open and honest discussions about it, then you're SOL.

There is no "negotiating" or "bargaining" or bringing up your past MFF experience, either. If he says no, then you have to accept that and move on.

Choux

Lots of men do not want to have sex with another man!!! I suggest you leave him alone. I think he would prefer leaving you than have a threesome with a man and you.

Good luck in 2008,

Ash123

This is a tough one. Women "Play" a lot more readily with the same sex. So, a 2 girl threesome is a lot more common.

You are referring to "The Devil's Triangle" - 2 swords and one gal. That is one thing you may need a bisexual or young drunk guy to do....But, if not -

As long as you don't plan to marry the guy, just tell him that there is gonna be a well-hung dude arriving with a bottle of wine at about 8. He is gonna tap you like a snare drum and if your boyfriend wants to watch, or join in please do. In fact, he can have first shot at ya....And if he does it nice, you will get a girl for him...

If this does not work out you can be single and start over.

A compromise....Do verbal fantasies...Talk your wild fantasies out....Would he be OK with that? if so, you may not have to risk as much...

OR go for it...and report how it goes.

alwaystrue

The main question is why do you want a threesome and I think before anyone answer they should read all her posting to get a history of her and this guy.

Synnen

Ooooh...yeah. Didn't make that connection.

Honey, you need to GROW UP before you start putting yourself in situations like this.

Multiple partners ONLY works either when NO ONE cares about anyone else in the bed, or when the people in the bed have respect, communication, trust and understanding--and you're missing most of those elements in your relationship.

How about just getting a grip on who YOU are, and how to make YOURSELF happy without dragging your boyfriend and some other random guy into it?

Xrayman

Chrissy, people are trying to give you a response-no one here judges or hold grudges against anyone, you asked for our opinion-you got it, do you want us to say "Go for it, screw your relationship-because I'm sure your man would LOVE to have sex with another man? " most of us wont do that-we are generally well rounded sensual and sexual people here. But most advice is not about stuffing-up relationships, it's mostly about improving sexual relations and communication.

Your man says "no", back off, stop the whining and stop trying to convince him that he should do it. Thats called BAD COMMUNICATION, it makes for BAD SEX.

Please try to accept the answers/opinions, make use or not of them and move on.

cheers.

Fr_Chuck

See this is a double standard, I bet had you asked him to let another women, he would have said great, since he also would have had additional sexual partner, But what he most likely does not want is you with another women.

Or of course he may have grown past the pure seuxal sharing into a deeper relationship.

In the end, most threesomes end up breaking up a long term relationship because one party or the other always gets jealous

Synnen

Honey...if you don't like my answers, don't read them.

I have no grudges against anyone.

What I do have, though, is a lack of patience with people who seem intent on doing stupid things for instant gratification and selfish reasons.

Please--really LOOK at what you're doing in your relationship, and WHY you're doing it. Your fiance wants kids, you don't....so instead of telling him so, you just dont' go off birth control. You want to "convince" him to do something sexually he's not into. You have self-esteem issues and suspect him of being a pervert--yet YOU are the one that wants to jump into bed with multiple people at the same time!

I say "grow up" because you are obviously not thinking through the consequences of what you want to do, and you're obviously only thinking about YOU, not your fiance, not his feelings, and definitely not his preferences on things.