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Old May 10, 2008, 03:56 PM
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Turned on by all the wrong people

I am 27 yrs old and have lost interest in sex with my boyfriend. I want to have sex with everyone else I see. I become aroused by people who I don't know at all. It's really all I can think about. I've been in this situation before with other boyfriends and regretted breaking up with them over the problem. I loose all interest in them sexually and only want sex from the people I can not be with. I can't stand breaking up with someone else who I love so much over this. I don't know what can be done. I must have sex in my relationship and I'm afraid that I will cheat and completely ruin what I have and want more than anything. I feel like if I cheat- I can get these feelings out of my body and still maintain my relationship, but I know this is not true.
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Old May 10, 2008, 06:46 PM   #2  
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DON'T CHEAT!! This will help no one. Have you tried role playing? Your partner can pretend to someone/something else. It seems that this could help with the arousal.
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Old May 10, 2008, 06:59 PM   #3  
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This issue could be addressed by a counselor. It sounds like it runs pretty deep. And it has been affecting your life even before this boyfriend.

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Old May 10, 2008, 07:04 PM   #4  
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Have you considered the scenario that you might have a fear of settling down with one man? Or, that you prefer the excitement of a new conquest to the security of a loyal man? There could be several reasons why you want to wander.

Studies indicate that by two years into a relationship, the sexual excitement has pretty much abated between a couple. If that is all that a relationship is about, then the relationship is going to end naturally...no one's fault, just a natural end.

What are your goals as far as the future? Do you want a husband/life partner? Not everyone is capable of maintaiig a close relationship with a spouse/partner....that takes patience, social skills, dedication and motivation.

Probably, it would be helpful to you to clarify your goals. That should be the first step in sorting our your feelings about how you want to deal with how you make decisions in your life.

Best wishes!

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ChihuahuaMomma agrees: I'm on a greenie mission today, not really, people just keep giving kick butt answers!! That's really the norm outta Choux though.
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Old May 10, 2008, 07:09 PM   #5  
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I don't understand your comment.
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I don't understand your comment.
You gave a kickbutt answer..that's the norm..
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Thanks, CM
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Old May 12, 2008, 12:39 AM   #9  
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Originally Posted by LillieBaby
I am 27 yrs old and have lost interest in sex with my boyfriend. I want to have sex with everyone else I see. I become aroused by people who I don't know at all. It's really all I can think about. I've been in this situation before with other boyfriends and regretted breaking up with them over the problem. I loose all interest in them sexually and only want sex from the people I can not be with. I can't stand breaking up with someone else who I love so much over this. I don't know what can be done. I must have sex in my relationship and I'm afraid that I will cheat and completely ruin what I have and want more than anything. I feel like if I cheat- I can get these feelings out of my body and still maintain my relationship, but I know this is not true.
be very careful this is how whores are born!

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BTW, that was meant to be a reddie.

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Greg Quinn agrees: Russ has had a bad week. I think this problem is too familiar, and he seems to use the word "whore"very loosley to say the least.
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