My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs. We are each others first most serious significant others. Everyone thinks that we are the perfect couple. We are deeply in love with each other. We do fight, but we always have a good time together out with our friends and are very romantic together on our own.
We consider one another the love of one another's lives, but I consistently have had a problem with our sex life. When we do have sex, it is usually really good and I orgasm. The first two months of "getting to know each other", I would reject him because I wasn't ready. Than when I was ready we were constantly having sex for 6 months, than out of no where it died down. I was really confused.
At first I would talk about it all the time, but then I stopped. We'll have sex maybe three days in a row or for one day, once a day, and than we will have a dry spell for a week or two. I will ovbiously try to initiate sex, and I will get rejected. We only have sex when he wants to. I don't think this is fair! He says that he is often tired and fatigued from work. He says that he is not that healthy, but takes no steps to living a healthier lifestyle. He used to say that it was because I needed to lose weight and he wanted me to have a flat stomach. He stopped saying that after I lost some weight. Believe me, I am no where near fat, and I have huge boobs, which makes it almost impossible for me to have a naturally flat stomach, but he says it would be hot.
I want to do anything to make this work because we are truly in love, and for the most part, the rest of our relationship is great. Should I make myself less available to him? Should I start rejecting him sexually and stop spending every night with him? I'm not sure what to do..