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hi to all
i just wish to share my problem.. im 18 and a virgin my bf isnt a virgin.. i cant understand y its bothering me so much.. i feel he did everything wih some1 else already.
i even though of asking if he as always used a condom but i think it might not be that suitable to ask such a question wat do u guys think?? hehe
your a virgin, hes not, dont sweat it. Its not that big of a deal... trust me, at 18, im SURE he hasnt already done EVERYTHING with someone else. You should actually be grateful because a boys first time usually isnt all that great lol
Second, if you are planning to have sex with him, YES, you better find out if he used protection!! If he didnt, or if you dont trust that he did, tell him to get tested before you engage in any sexual activity. Who cares if he gets offended... it is your body and your life... do you want to live the rest of your life with a disease??
thanks a lot.. im 18 hes older.. they had been together for like 3 yrs i think if not more.. i say they did everything like would even live together for the weekend etc.. i feel its bothering me
Honetsly, you shouldnt let this get to you. In this day and age, it is very rare to find someone of that age that is still a virgin. You really cant let it get to you. You should just think of it as something to be thankful for. At least he will have some clue as to how to treat you!!
thanks again!!
it has never really bothered me all my past relationships wer wit guys who werent virgins.. this guy seems to be treating me better than the rest...ill take ur advice and put it aside.. or atleast ill try cos its like his ex keeps appearing like they did this b4 its now as special to him as it is to me.. ohh heheh im sounding soo stupid lol
I have to say that you are lucky. Better to have a trained man than one who is not. Trust me, when it comes down to "it" you will be thankful. Virgin men are all hands and legs. They dont know up from down and rarely will they satisfy you. I know you feel it is special to you, and it is. Know that whoever you give your maidenhead to it might not be so special. Men rarely hold this as a prize like women do. If you are dead set on being with a virgin then go to church and find one. But honestly, you would do better with an experienced man.
I understand how u feel but what is the past is the past, I am sure he have not done every thing . But knowing he is not a virgin is not a big deal. Just don't take too much at yr heart. As long as he is not have any sexual relationship with the person any more, it should be fine.
sex can be complicated enough when you are having it. dont let this be a hangup with your relationship.
fine. hes had sex. you have not. you wouldnt want him to judge you harshly because you are a virgin, right?
and as for having done everything already.... it is a long process of learning. and different people have different reactions and needs. there is no one way that works for all.... so dont think that hes figured it all out. ive had relationships of 6 years, 2 years, and 6 years and counting... none of them were the same sexually, and we were still learning "new" things in each of them.
just dont try to "compete" with a relationship that is over. hes with you.
Hi, Stars,
I like your comment about "putting is aside" for now.
Being a virgin is a great compliment to anyone. If it bothers you talking with him about his past sex life, then don't.
But, if you get to the point you want to talk about with him, then by all means, do. A good relationship is built on trust, love, caring, and sharing. You both should be able to talk about anything you want. That comes with knowing your boyfriend, and might take some time to develop that relationship.
If and when you do have sex with him... Make sure to use those condoms... Even if he has only been with one other person... Remember when your are having sex and not using condoms you are sleep with everyone that person has slept with plus every person they slpet with and so on... You can never be to safe...
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