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My boyfriend and I must I say have GREAT sex. But I feel as if I get so wet it isn't as pleasurable. I get wet a lot during sex, but eventually I dry out. I feel like I dry out very quickly due to how wet I get at first. If we go again a second time later I feel tighter and takes me longer to get wet. He is average size, considering I have had bigger, but it isnt as pleasurable due to how I can get wet without any foreplay. It makes me feel very insecure and wonder if something could be wrong with me? I dont know what he thinks about it. But we both get SO worn out due to how long it has to take sometimes. We can never have a quicky before work because with us there is NO such thing as a quicky. What should I do? Is there such thing as TOO wet? Any tips or advice?
Nope, no such thing as "too wet". You are wet because he arouses you. You are very attracted to him. That is a good thing. Not sure how long you all have been together, but as time passes, we usually get use to one another, and passion, and attraction wanes a little.
Enjoy! No worries.
Being wet is compltely normal. You are lucky! Wet makes sex better! Try and enjoy it and realise that this is what happens when a woman gets turned on. It doent stay that way all your life so make sure you enjoy it now. Not everyone gets wet easily so you should be pleased. Why do you think peoplebuy and use lubricant. You can never have too much wetness. Dont be embarrassed or anxious or shy about this. Be happy, truned on and feel sexyabout this.
You are probably getting dry because you are worrying about being wet. Anxiety is a big turn off.
DO NOT DOUCHE. This can cause imbalances in the bacteriain your vagina, causing thrush and bacterial vaginosis. It also increases the likelihood of trauma/inflammation to the lining gof your vagina which means it is easier to get STI's.
It can increase the risk of vaginal irritation, vaginal infections, STI's, pelvic inflammatory disease.
Not a good idea. Irresponsible, ill-advised advice.
Quote from medicinenet.com: "Most doctors and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) suggest that women steer clear of douching"
I didn't say she should take up douching as a hobby - I said if she is so wet that she cannot enjoy sex, then she should douche. I keep seeing the same key word in my research - "frequent."
You are certainly entitled to your opinion, just as I am entitled to mine.
I realize your response to me is based at least in part on your belief that I somehow closed one of your threads, as you expressed to me by PM. If you no longer have a copy of the PM, I'll be happy to forward one to you. You aren't going to agree with anything I say.
As a health care professional you probably shouldn't be dating someone with a marijuana habit which is affecting his life and your relationship with your family - unless you want to lose your license. You refer to giving advice to patients so whatever you do, it involves a license. http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-s...ip-400525.html
Babydoll, are you trying to say that because of too much lubrication neither one of you are getting the sensations that you need to make intercourse pleasurable? In other words, you are too slippery?
It is nothing to feel bad about or ashamed of. It is perfectly normal to be that turned on with someone you care about.
Have you tried changing positions such as you being on top? Changing positions will change how the lubrication 'flows'. Moving in different ways can add friction, too. It is something you would have to experiment with to find what works for you.
You might also look into Kegel Exercises to give you better control over and strength to the pelvic floor muscles.
Thanks to all that have so far replied. Well its hard to do different positions because he doesnt get as motivated as I do. Sex is a top thing I love. I like it daily! But he ALWAYS wants me on top. Which makes his size feel bigger due to going deeper. But it still feels too wet. If we ever switch I try to dry off but it doesnt always work. When I ask him if he thinks I am too wet he doesnt reply. I mean I KNOW he enjoys it. But it isnt as great for me. The only time it is good for me is when I am on top. Otherwise its bland and boring. I wish I could get him motivated to try new things because I love experimenting. Even though he wants sex ALL the time? he only wants it in one position? Kind of annoying but still works I suppose. I just wish I could control how wet i get :/
Wet is good, to a point. Being extremely wet sometimes reduces the sensation, for me that is. You want to feel the warm tissue against your skin. If there is a "hydraulic barrier", it reduces resistance, thus reducing the pleasure. So there is such a thing as being too wet.
That's my theory anyhow. I am not a doctor nor a healthcare worker of any kind. I am just a guy. A guy with a penis, and an opinion.
How old are you? You will find that at different times (with arousal and hormone fluctuations) you won't produce as much lubrication as you are now.
It also sounds like he is a lazy lover wanting you to do all the work. The more effort he puts into it the more lubrication will be used up.
The Kegel exercises will give you greater control over those muscles and to use use them more effectively.
If you feel less wet after an orgasm, you might try oral or manual manipulation (including toys) to climax and tighten those muscles before intercourse.
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