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My boyfriend and I must I say have GREAT sex. But I feel as if I get so wet it isn't as pleasurable. I get wet a lot during sex, but eventually I dry out. I feel like I dry out very quickly due to how wet I get at first. If we go again a second time later I feel tighter and takes me longer to get wet. He is average size, considering I have had bigger, but it isnt as pleasurable due to how I can get wet without any foreplay. It makes me feel very insecure and wonder if something could be wrong with me? I dont know what he thinks about it. But we both get SO worn out due to how long it has to take sometimes. We can never have a quicky before work because with us there is NO such thing as a quicky. What should I do? Is there such thing as TOO wet? Any tips or advice?
I am 20 as is my boyfriend. I mean I use toys, I cant do it around him though. He thinks its weird. But i know other men would like it quite a bit! I'm going to have to make him work for what he wants or just deny him when he wants it and wont do anything. Maybe that will kick his butt into shape. Do those Kegel exercises actually work? Like has anyone done them and say that they really work?
I am 20 as is my boyfriend. I mean I use toys, I cant do it around him though. He thinks its weird. But i know other men would like it quite a bit! I'm going to have to make him work for what he wants or just deny him when he wants it and wont do anything. Maybe that will kick his butt into shape. Do those Kegel exercises actually work? Like has anyone done them and say that they really work?
I've done Kegel's religiously since I was a teen. Because of these exercises I have tremendous muscle control.
In other words, yes, they work.
As for wetness, we're all different. Some guys love a girl that's more wet, others find it a turn off, so ask your partner what he thinks about it. If you can't talk to him then you won't last long.
As you get older, have kids, go through other life changes, your body will change, as will your wetness level. Hormones play a big part in this. Be happy that you can naturally lubricate yourself, many women can't.
The most important thing in your relationship is honest open communication. Don't play games, don't deny him things hoping that he'll figure out what the problem is. Talk to him.
Do you self-stimulate in other positions? The reason you may only really enjoy being on top is because that stimulates your clitoris. Other positions---not so much.
He needs to get over his toy hang ups, and you need to stop worrying about being aroused.
If you REALLY think it's too much, then talk to your gynecologist.
Seriously...this guy better get comfortable the way you are because this is who you are. Or find a guy that will. There are plenty out there who will. Always remember that point if someone suggests making permanent and dramatic changes.
You aren't a stick in the mud. He should be happy about that.
And about being too wet? He needs to get over it. Better being too wet than too dry. I've known women like this. Its nothing to be worried or self conscience about. There are more pluses for that than there are negatives.
I am 20 as is my boyfriend. I mean I use toys, I cant do it around him though. He thinks its weird. But i know other men would like it quite a bit! I'm going to have to make him work for what he wants or just deny him when he wants it and wont do anything. Maybe that will kick his butt into shape. Do those Kegel exercises actually work? Like has anyone done them and say that they really work?
Yes, Kegels work.
Once you start playing games - "make him work for what he wants or just deny him when he wants it ..." I think you are dooming (to say nothing of cheapening) the relationship.
He isn't some house pet you are trying to train; he's (in theory) your boyfriend.
I wouldn't want somebody making ME work for what I want or denying ME in order to teach me a lesson. Not fair and (again, I think) terribly immature
Kegals definitly work!! Hmm a guy who thinks it's wierd that you want to play with toys, and never wants to change positions, seems strange to me... More strange then perhaps being "too wet" or toys or wanting to switch things up... are YOU sure you guys are sexually compatable?? Do you think he is shy or just plain lazy? I have never had a complaint about being too wet. I think if it feels good for you and him then it's working. If you arent happy about it then you can start worrying, but it did sound like it wasnt as enjoyable for you, is that becasue you are too busy worrying what he is thinking, or it really isn't enjoyable?
Same thing happens to me! Men love the dampness....but at times, it can get to be excessive when dealing with chicks like us. I have had men reach down and actually wipe some of the natural lube off and then put it back in. Once that is done, you actually feel more!
And you are correct, sometimes the excessive wetness leads to premature dry-out. Keep a bottle of lube handy for those times.
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