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my husband and i have been trying to conceive and our one major problem is i get too wet too fast and there is no sensation for him. we can't think of a thing to do to help this...
i know there are lotions to help a female who doesn't get wet at all but is there something that could help "dry it up"?
Speaking as a fellow, I have no idea what your husband is talking about. For me, the wetter the better. Personally, I HATE dry p****y. Dry isn't good. It's like sandpaper. It's no fun. In 30 years when you CAN'T get wet, he's not gonna like it either.
I would suggest you start using the Kegal exercise to tighten you up. My wife was the same way when she was alive and never exercise herself down there. my girlfriend now is fifty, and that is what she does at work when standing around. She can tighten up so much it makes me come out of her when we make love. LOL
I have been pregnant before and i teach alot of people about sex ed. Being wet is a GOOD thing. It helps the sperm swim up the canal faster and easier so your "expiration date" lol for the sperm to die doesnt seem so harmfull. Men should love a WET sensation down there i really dont understand why your husband doesnt.
The wetness you describe could be due to your ovulation date-it is supposed to be this way.
Your partner may need to readjust his concept of what is nice-maybe a little less selfishness on his part may help. Drying up is not the issue here, some more time spent with foreplay and "Lovemaking" rather than concentration on conception may help.
Maybe just stop in the middle ever once in a while and wipe the outside with a soft towel and then go at it again. Changing positions might help also but as soon as he does his thing. Flip over on your back and prop your hips up with a pillow. Helps the little boogers get to the right spot!
It's possible to get around this using alternative stimulation. Toys, such as a penis ring, can increase the sensations without changing anything about the woman. Other options (assuming he's not dead set against such things, like many men are) include anal beads/plugs for him... again, these simply increase his pleasure without changing anything about the partner.
There's also the simple option of bringing him close to orgasm using other methods (hand, mouth, etc), then inserting the penis for the grand finale. Since it's a short duration, you can simulate what he seems to need by making a ring around the base of his penis with your thumb and forefinger, and let him thrust through that into your vagina... this will combine the extra sensation he needs with the penetration needed for conception.
I do hope you have a healthy love life aside from this one issue... it would be a shame to miss out on the sexual side of your relationship over something like this.
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