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I am not asking anyone to post how many partners they slept with that’s personal.
The question is how many sex partners are too much?
I personally think having more 3 sexual partners is too many. If woman told me that she has been with more than 3 people I would not date her, this of course only applies to when I was single.
I don't think the number should matter. What should matter is that the person is looking for the same kind of relationship with you that you're looking for with them. People who've had lots of partners can be capable of deep emotions and long-term monogamy, if that's what you want. Have you seen the movie "Chasing Amy"? If not, I recommend it...
I tried to leave the question open ended, I'm not saying my standards should apply to everyone. My standard may change depending on age. I dont expect someone who is 40 to only have had two lovers but it would be nice.
My numbers are no one's business. Not even my husband's (All he needs to know is that he is the LAST number).
Because of stupid ideas that a certain number is "too much", ESPECIALLY since it's primarily guys that have that stupid idea---more and more women just don't want to talk about numbers.
And any guy that HAS a specific number as "too many" better either be a virgin or have FEWER than that number himself.
If they were tested STI-free, had treated past partners respectfully, and with me wanted whatever kind of relationship I wanted with them, and I otherwise liked them for who they were, sure, why not? Like I said, I don't think number should matter. It's a person we're talking about here -they aren't less of a human for having a sexual history. And I don't think one-night stands (or whatever) make someone a bad person, so long as they're engaged in with mutual respect.
Like I said, have you seen "Chasing Amy"? I think that movie really speaks to this...
sex with multiple partners in my opinion does not make some one a "bad" person. I think the personality that is within is what really matters. And I dont feel you should ask some one before you date them..."how many sex partners have you had?" ......... What a conversation starter, huh? lmao
well, what makes me angry is the double-standard. society thinks its ok for men to have just about as many sex partners as they want and they are just "getting lucky" whereas if a woman had oh let's say, 20 sex partners, she is a slut. I know women that are not even 21 yet and have had close to 20 and they are the nicest most devoted women you'd ever meet and NOT sluts. I have met men that "claim" to have had over 200 women, and they are just like awesome! it's just funny. I think as long as someone is tested and shows up as clean and is a decent, sweet, devoted human being then the number shouldn't count. I know it wouldn't for me.