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Do you like him? Are you looking for an out? Is excon closer to correct than you want to think? You seem to find fault with just about every part of your boyfriend and have very little good to say about him. I bring this up because you keep playing the break-up/make-up game and expecting everything to be okay between you.
He uses drugs according to you. That right there is a big libido problem especially cocaine. He has PTSD and is self-medicating (I note you leave out the self-medicating part in the previous thread.)
My very heterosexual husband sometimes stands with one hand on his hip. It seems to be a habit he picked up while smoking. He doesn't even realize he does it. I never once thought it was effeminate.
Some men like clothes. Would you say that a woman who dislikes shopping is 'masculine'?
Some people who have to wear uniforms all the time like having off-duty clothes that look nothing like their work clothes.
Some men like bottoms and anal sex not because of being homosexual or bisexual, but because they like the feel and tightness. It is like some men are obsessed with breasts.
You have asked him and he says he isn't. Unless you find him in the act, there is no other way. If you keep asking him over and over again, it is no wonder he gets upset. If he kept asking you if you were a lesbian or cheating on him when you weren't, how would you react?
You either trust him and work together to build a relationship or you decide this one is too much work and move on.