I suspect my husband is gay. Please advise.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 12, 2012, 08:54 AM

So he is gay, he is cheating most obvious and does it matter if it is men or women he is cheating with, you leave him, or stay with him knowing he is doing this/

Ukenna · Mar 12, 2012, 02:14 PM

Thanks everyone. Finally talked the talk.
He denied flat. His reasons......
1. He picked the cialis from the floor in his store
2. The clubs he visited were random. When asked abt d list, he said he couldn't remember
3. He's had d gel lubricant for a long time. He just brought it into the house.
4. He can't remember the membership cards.
5. He just likes doing HIV tests bc its free n he likes to kn his status(even though he is not cheating).

Honestly I am soooooo overwhelmed by this.

Ukenna · Mar 12, 2012, 02:17 PM

About the online dating site........it just pops up. (It pops up all the time bc he goes there b4 he goes to work. sometimes when I pull it up, it says 'u r logged out. log in again')

Ukenna · Mar 12, 2012, 03:35 PM

Thanks a lot everyone. We finally talked the talk. He denied flat. His reasons........
1. He picked d cialis fron the floor at his store.
2. He's always had the lubricant in his car. Just brought it into the house.
3. He enters clubs randomly n they all happened to be gay clubs. Abt the lists? He couldn't remember.
4. He just likes getting tested so he'l know his HIV status.
5. The gay dating site just pops up on his system( even though sometimes it says''u r logged out. Log in again''.
6.He doesn't remember the membership cards.
7. What he does at the clubs he 'randomly' enters?....... He just looks around n leaves. And then finds himself in another.

As I were a baby.

pineapples · Mar 12, 2012, 04:29 PM

Gay I yhink

smoothy · Mar 12, 2012, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Ukenna

Thanks everyone. Finally talked the talk.
He denied flat. His reasons......
1. He picked the cialis from the floor in his store
2. The clubs he visited were random. When asked abt d list, he said he couldn't remember
3. He's had d gel lubricant for a long time. He just brought it into the house.
4. He can't remember the membership cards.
5. He just likes doing HIV tests bc its free n he likes to kn his status(even though he is not cheating).

Honestly I am soooooo overwhelmed by this.

He's telling lies...

1. Isn't Cialis a prescription drug? Seriously I think it is..that means its controlled.

2. Straight guys don't randomly vist Gay clubs...if they accidently enter one...they get out real quick.

3. What would he have had it for exactly? The John Holms dildo he also forgot about?

4. You have to actively apply for membership in clubs....maybe even pay for them, you don't accidently get membership cards for them.

5. As far as the HIV status...come on now...if he's faithful...exactly how does he think he's going to get it....thats a lame excuse.

odinn7 · Mar 12, 2012, 06:49 PM

Those are some crazy lies he's telling you. Sorry but to me it looks like he's gay....and cheating on you.

JudyKayTee · Mar 13, 2012, 06:51 AM

Cialis IS a prescription drug.

CravenMorhead · Mar 13, 2012, 08:05 AM

So.... Have you called a divorce lawyer yet?

I ask because of his commitment to his family and the manner in which he is dealing with you. This might transfer to your child and we don't want it hurt.

What he wants you to believe sounds like a plot to a bad daytime soap opera. It is hard to accept but it sounds like your husband is cheating on you and doing a piss-poor job of covering it up. Protect yourself and more importantly protect your child.

JudyKayTee · Mar 13, 2012, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by CravenMorhead

So.... Have you called a divorce lawyer yet?

I ask because of his commitment to his family and the manner in which he is dealing with you. This might transfer to your child and we don't want it hurt.

What he wants you to believe sounds like a plot to a bad daytime soap opera. It is hard to accept but it sounds like your husband is cheating on you and doing a piss-poor job of covering it up. Protect yourself and more importantly protect your child.

I'm not sure that he isn't one of those men who won't leave - they push you until YOU leav,e and then they're the victim. He's done everything but tattoo "gay" on his forehead and there has to be a reason.

I think he doesn't want to be the one to leave the marriage (for whatever reason).

I suspect my husband is gay. Please advise.

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