My wife and I have been together for going on 5 years now. I am currently in the military and serving a tour in Afghanistan. When I went through Fort Riley, KS, 2 other guys and myself went to an all nude strip club called temptations, this is the very first time I have done something like that since we have been together. It was a spur of the moment decision and I really wasn't thinking. The bad thing is, I tried to hide the fact that I went from my wife and she found out by one of my bank statements in the mail.
My wife has lost all trust in me no matter how long ago it was and how many times I apologize to her. I went home on mid tour leave and we are still extremely sexually active, but she doesn't want to consider what we have a marriage and continues to say things like "she has the most hatred for me than anyone else she knows" and it makes me really upset.
It has been almost a year since the incident and she is still upset about the whole ordeal. I don't know what else to do to make her realize that I am sorry and I don't want to ever do it again because it has caused her so much hurt and anguish.
First I would like to say Thank you for serving our country..2ndly..OOPS!and 3rdly in my opinion she may never let it go and she may never forgive you.Do you have children together?
We do have a daughter together, she is going to be 4 shortly. That is exactly what she says, that she will probably never let me get over it. No matter all the good things I may do for her.
Have things changed? Does she treat you like crap or do you 2 get along fine. You just have to work on earning her trust. There may be a day she fully trusts you again. Then again she may never trust you. You can hope for the best here or move on. Oh and thanks for fighting for our country.
Things have not changed. We get along just fine when I am home. I spend as much time with her and my daughter as I possibly can while I am home. I think deep down inside she wants to forgive me, but she may think it is too early for forgiveness.
Things have not changed. We get along just fine when I am home. I spend as much time with her and my daughter as I possibly can while I am home. I think deep down inside she wants to forgive me, but she may think it is too early for forgiveness.
I'd sit her down, have the conversation AGAIN and ask her when/if she is going to "forgive you."
Is she upset about the strip club, the money or the lie?
I'd sit her down, have the conversation AGAIN and ask her when/if she is going to "forgive you."
Is she upset about the strip club, the money or the lie?
More about the strip club and the lie. It was the whole reasoning as to why I felt I needed to go to the strip club as if I thought she wasn't good enough. I keep telling her over and over again that it was a one time ordeal. She doesn't believe anything I say because I am so far away and she can't see what I am doing on a daily basis.
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