| On a Similar Line with Kirkel; Co-worker Relations/Relationships?
There's at least a few folks out there in common blog-land that ain't happy with me, but they've been kind enough in the last several posts to at least answer my questions honestly and with some mild forms of respect.
Here's another.
Only, in this case... this is along the lines of where my life is headed.
At my workplace, I've a co-worker that, within the last month and a half, has become a close friend of mine. She is making the advances towards a relationship--knowing what she does about me hasn't deterred her (a part of me which lies quite happy with this). A large part of me tells me to wait until everything concerning my present history--if you're curious, take a glance into the Divorce sub-section of Family and People, I think it is....
You'll understand a little further, then.
Now then, said female co-worker is 35. I'm 26.
She tells me on a constant basis that she is at my back in my personal decisions within the last several months, and is also encouraging my wife as well with her personal decisions.
However, she is my co-worker. We literally work the same hours, on the same days. Exact-same-shift. Exactly so.
I must admit that I find her attractive; emotionally and physically. It's been my hand that has stayed the relations to a more-solid friendship. No physical intimacy has occurred. Until circumstantial events are rectified, nothing will take place, and neither do I believe it will be so until a good while has passed after.
I've been noticing a trend in the community within which I am living. Many of the business establishments in this town have come about because two friends become co-workers and, later, married couples. She has her dreams, and they overlap with my own.
Our personalities, in a phrase, fit into the same region. We click. We move easily with one-another. We compliment our actions with one-another; few have, in the last years, seen anyone who--whether her age or older, or younger--compliments her in the same way that I appear to.
I've held myself back to a large degree. I refuse to sleep in the same room with her; if need be, I am usually found on her mother's sofa. Her younger brother--two years older than I am--recently coined the phrase "Gothic Cowboy" to explain what I was like to a couple of his friends... and now most of the town is using said phrase to explain me when speaking in context with her. The entire town seems to like me, including law enforcement, which catches me off-guard.
I'm having troubles in my own right, yes. Everyone is in agreement, based on what they've heard through the grapevine--that grapevine would most likely have been an undoing if in another place--about the circumstantial events concerning myself and my wife. They all seem to be encouraging the civil split that is coming, and are ready and willing to help she and I become an item, despite our co-working relations. I don't understand it. Seriously, I do not. I've lived in large-enough cities for long enough a time that I'm wary about it.
But... at the same time, I am curious to know others' thoughts concerning what's going on... should I take the graceless leap, and work upon this relationship, when circumstances allow, or should I continue living in silence as the hermit I usually enjoy being?
Be at peace, all,
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