My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and in the first 3 months we had sex like almost every time we saw each other, but after we moved in together we only did it 3 times a week, but everything changed after I got pregnant he would only want to touch me twice every 3 weeks. But now that I'm 6 months pregnant he doesn't even want to touch me at all, its been 2 months since we had sex. I feel like every time I try he just doesn't want to touch me back, and when I ask him why he doesn't want to he says his tired. He makes me feel really bad about myself like if he wasn't into me anymore, I really think his cheating on me and am a little scared. A while a go I told him that if he ever cheated on me, to not to touch me ever again! I just don't know why I have this really bad feeling that his cheating on me.

Do you actually have any "proof" he might be cheating? Phone calls to other women? Him disappearing for hours on end with no reason? Anything along those lines? My boyfriend and me went through a rough patch where he was convinced that if I wasn't already cheating on him then I was going to at some point. The constant accusation nearly ended our relationship and was a huge turn off. It got to the point that I told him he either work out his issues and knock it off or he could leave. He worked it out. What does that have to do with you now? If this is something that keeps coming up between you two, and he's really not cheating, it could be pushing him away and that may be why he's not touching you. Or maybe he's weirded out about the pregnancy, he might feel awkward having sex knowing that your guys's child is right there in your womb. Or maybe he really is just tired. Who knows. Just be careful not to jump to conclusions and try talking to him and see if you can find out what's really going on with him.

Why does it have to be cheating... maybe he fell out of lust with you. It happens all the time.

Do you fall back into lust with that person, or do you accept it and make the best of it because you still love the person?

Just curious.

Lust is fleeting... but love is a far deeper thing. It takes a fair amount of life experience to know and see the difference between the two.

Its dumb... let me make that stupid, to stay with a person who does not show you the same love in return.

You don't MAKE someone love you. Its either there or its not, by that I really mean its developed or it hasn't... lust happens... love developes. If its not you have to move on and find someone else where it does develop.

Hard process, but lifes too short trying to make something happen that's not going to happen, and waste time with someone who is obviously the wrong person.

And while you are wasting that time... you are not seeing the better options you have available to you.

I still want to know what the OP's age is... its always pertinant for advice given to know what ages are involved.

Angie,

Justcurious had a good point. He may well be scared of hurting you or the baby. It's never stated outright in Western society, but guys are indoctrinated to be very careful with pregnancy for fear of injury, either physical or emotional, to the mother.

You must have a talk with him. If he is weirded out about the pregnancy, it would be best if you knew exactly where he stood on that.

Have either of you read the "baby books?" I was thinking specifically about What to Expect When You Are Expecting. Is this his first baby? Even if he has read extensively and understands the hormonal and physical changes you are going through, having a baby is a big deal. Having a pregnant girlfriend can be a scary thing.

Is he cheating? We can't say. Do you guys need to discuss you feelings, needs and expectations? Absolutely.

Well when I asked him why we weren't having sex anymore he said that it just feels weird that his scared his going to pook him in the face. I also let him know how I feel and how even thought I'm pregnant I still have needs. You think its normal for man to feel that way?

Some men feel that pregnant women are sexy. Some men are afraid they will hurt the baby. Both are normal.

A man who educates himself finds out that the baby is well protected. Sex is, in most cases not a danger to the baby at all. And, his not wanting to touch you doesn't seem to have anything to do with poking it in the face, does it?

Your body will tell you if something is not right. For instance, if lying on your back is uncomfortable or makes you short of breath, you'll turn. Long before the infant is endangered, the pregnant woman will move and make adjustments which protect both herself and the baby.

Your boyfriend may never be comfortable having sex while you're pregnant. Mutual masturbation is fun. Maybe he'd like that.

There isn't any chance of him poking the kid in the face, denting its head etc. Not until after your waters broke and you are in labor... at at that point something like that isn't going to be happening anyway.

This is very normal. It's normal for him to be worried about hurting the baby. And it's normal for you to feel as if he's cheating because of his lack of interest.

There are other ways of pleasing each other besides intercourse.

There is a book , that if you don't have already, you should really read. It's called "What to expect if you're expecting"
They have a collection of books that will help you along your path to parenthood. It touches on THAT and many other subjects. You should get a copy, today.

GOD bless you and your family. May your baby be healthy, and your labor short.

Its not a concrete sign that he's cheating but it IS a sign that he is probably not happy about the baby on the way.

He is probably not ready for kids but does not want to tell you.

Regardless, It looks like this one may not last much longer.

The reason why he is giving you less and less affection as the months go by is he's starting to really realize what's coming.

You should talk to him about it calmly. The ugly truth may be revealed and will hurt you but you're saving yourself time and heartbreak by getting it off your chest now.

Angie, it is very common. The book that jmjoseph mentions can help a lot. Having him go with you to a doctor's visit and talk to the ob can help too. They are used to the questions and concerns.

Keep in mind that you have a separate person living in your abdomen right now who can move on his/her own. Babies tend to pick the worst times to stretch and kick. That can cause some men (and women) to freak out. Add that to the fairly natural fear of causing harm and you can see how it might cause him to back off.

For you the baby has been a reality from the first. For him, the baby was probably an abstract until it became large enough for him to feel it kick which would explain part of why he backed off about a month ago.

You are also hitting the part of the pregnancy where fears of weight gain, losing his interest, etc. are beginning to hit hard. This is the time that nesting instinct starts taking over and anything that feels like it is disrupting the nest you are trying to build is scary. Paranoia and over-reaction are very common responses to fear. The trick is to recognize them before they cause you to do or say something you wouldn't normally.

This is a great time for you to work on being able to effectively communicate with each other. Read the book together. Use it to help talk about your fears in the present and concerns for the future.

Start preparing now for the changes in the relationship that the birth will bring. It isn't uncommon for couples to only look forward to having a happy, healthy baby and forget to think about the reality of a new person in the relationship who adds a lot of love but also a lot of stress. Communicate and work together and hopefully you can weed out the insecurities worries before they bloom.

I don't think it is a sign of cheating. It does sound like he is weirded out as you say, with you being pregnant.

I don't think that is so rare either, he just needs to be informed. A golden opportunity for you to do some research online, and/or have him go to your next Doctors appointment and bring up the subject so he can hear it first hand himself.