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renabell · Apr 16, 2007, 11:09 AM

I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my boyfriend dosen't won't sex. A cupple of weeks ago I had a miscarrage, I told him a week after but he didn't know was pregnant to begen with. We only had sex to a month witch I didn't mind but he won't touch me now what do you think it mite be.
Thanks :confused:

talaniman · Apr 17, 2007, 06:17 AM

Give him time. Talk and listen.

Krs · Apr 17, 2007, 06:19 AM

Originally Posted by renabell

I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my boyfriend dosen't wont sex. A cupple of weeks ago i had a miscarrage, I told him a week after but he didn't know was pregant to begen with. we only had sex 2 a month witch i didnt mind but he wont touch me now what do you think it mite be.
Thanks :confused:

He may be just as hurt as you are the miscarriage, have u discussed it between u?

Emland · Apr 17, 2007, 06:20 AM

You know him better than we do. What do you think is the reason? Is there no physical contact at all?

renabell · Apr 18, 2007, 07:29 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Give him time. Talk and listen.

I've tried talking before maybe its worth another go.
Or maybe he's cheating!

renabell · Apr 18, 2007, 07:40 AM

Originally Posted by Emland

You know him better than we do. What do you think is the reason? Is there no physical contact at all?

I think the reason is he's bord he will lean on me, touch my hand or leg nothing more

talaniman · Apr 18, 2007, 08:04 AM

Could the pressure of your trying to have a baby, and the subsequent events have anything to do with it? You must learn how to talk to him. And assuming does neither of you any good.

Emland · Apr 18, 2007, 08:30 AM

Originally Posted by renabell

i think the reason is hes bord he will lean on me, touch my hand or leg nothing more

So, basically you are friends who have had sex only once or twice and that is because he is bored? Sorry to be so thick - I'm just trying to understand.

renabell · Apr 18, 2007, 08:31 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Could the pressure of your trying to have a baby, and the subsequent events have anything to do with it? You must learn how to talk to him. And assuming does neither of you any good.

Every time I talk to him ask him what's rong he allways says I don't know its not you what is that meant to mean some how I allways say the rong thing or ask the rong questions. Your right I must learn how to talk to him.

renabell · Apr 18, 2007, 08:59 AM

[QUOTE=Emland]So, basically you are friends who have had sex only once or twice and that is because he is bored? Sorry to be so thick - I'm just trying to understand.[/QUOT

We are meant to be a couple in love, we've been living together for 3 years and looking for a new house so he seams to be committed to me but he won't come near me sexually we still sleep in the same bed but he turns around so I can't talk or cuddle him. I love him and he says he loves me but there's no physical side to our relationship and I ant got a clue why

shorty28 · Apr 18, 2007, 09:02 AM

Originally Posted by renabell

i have been in a relationship for 4 years but my boyfriend dosen't wont sex. A cupple of weeks ago i had a miscarrage, i told him a week after but he didn't know was pregant to begen with. We only had sex 2 a month witch i didnt mind but he wont touch me now what do you think it mite be.
Thanks :confused:

Hi there I've been with my boyfriend a little over 12 years and I'm 27 years old I went through it 2. Try changing your sex style buy sex toys buy sexy clothes tease him a little try making new and old friends make him a little jealous not 2 much

Emland · Apr 18, 2007, 09:37 AM

we are meant to be a couple in love,

I am not sure what that means. You are meant to be in love, but are you? Does he fulfill all your emotional needs? Is he attentive and affectionate?

Could he possibly just not want to live alone and likes having a live in girlfriend that does the laundry, etc?

I am posing these questions more for your own introspection than for my nosy needs. You don't have to answer them.

I love him and he says he loves me but there's no physical side to our relationship and I ant got a clue why

Has he been to the doctor recently? He might be suffering from ED or low testosterone and just not be interested but not comfortable talking to you about it.

sypher373 · Apr 18, 2007, 10:20 AM

I didn't see this mentioned, but it jumped at me...

You said he didn't know you were pregnant until the miscarriage...

If this problem just recently developed is it possible that the fact that you were pregnant at all scared him like hell? If he isn't looking to have a child, and found out you were pregnant it may have been a rude awakening to him...

shorty28 · Apr 18, 2007, 09:18 PM

Maybe he's tired of being in the relationship it could be that you guys argue a lot or he wants something or someone different could be sex life 2 much arguing maybe your keeping him 2 much in the house it could mean a lot of things if you could give me more detail I've been in your spot before and I'm very sorry your going through this.

LuvMyMaltipoo · Apr 18, 2007, 09:24 PM

You mentioned the miscarriage in the first post, do you think it has something to do with that? Did it all begin there or has it been going on the whole four years? If this just started recently, the thought of having a baby probably frightened him.

LuvMyMaltipoo · Apr 18, 2007, 09:25 PM

And not to pry or anything but what happenes when (or after) you have sex? Do you act like you enjoy it... do you make him feel like you were satisfied?

talaniman · Apr 18, 2007, 09:37 PM

Show me a couple with sex problems, and I will show you a couple with communication problems.

jeremy4719 · Apr 18, 2007, 09:51 PM

Reasons a guy wouldn't have sex.

1.) You aren't any good. We all can't be great. Offer something new (blow job, etc)
2.) Maybe you said something that he can't get of his mind. That is an erection killer.
3.) He's moved on to someone new, but hasn't broken off the relationship with you.
4.) He's gay as hell..

jomod06 · Mar 10, 2008, 10:06 PM

Originally Posted by renabell

I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my boyfriend dosen't wont sex. A cupple of weeks ago i had a miscarrage, I told him a week after but he didn't know was pregant to begen with. we only had sex 2 a month witch i didnt mind but he wont touch me now what do you think it mite be.
Thanks :confused:

Find out if he suffers from male impotence, or spice up his life with your imaginative skills, clean food, etc, etc.
If he suffers from male problems, look on the internet for MUSE suppositories. This would get him all crazy for one to four hours.
Do not complain if he s you like a young "MALE LION"
Joseph.
JRY./.

janlestat · May 26, 2011, 05:23 PM

I am having a similar problem but my fiancé is 65 years old, ten years older than me, so I figure its erectyle disfunction and he won't talk to me about it either. If you are younger and he's going through this then you need to tell him to go to the doctor if he doesn't know what the problem is. If he loves you he will at least listen to you but men don't like to think their manhood is threatened and sexual performance is linked to that. He could be going through something stressful or he's stressed about you having a baby or he is'nt interested in you anymore. You should just ask him if the problem is that he's not attracted to you anymore, I did this, and see what he says. If he is still attracted then it is a physical problem and he needs to see a doctor. I'm giving you this advice but I haven't told my man to go to a doctor either. He won't discuss it and so I'm wondering the same thing as you. I'm giving it a little while longer and then some decisions will have to be made. We shouldn't have to live our life this way. If you get along in other ways decide if you can handle this. I am having a hard time myself so I know what you're going through.