When is bad behaviour, simply bad behaviour. Why do we put legitimacy to it by calling it 'an addiction' or 'disease', or blame it on his mother hitting him with a cast iron frying pan when he was a kid.
It is what it is. How he can address his bad behaviour, is by being confronted about it, without any sugar coating. After you know the level of his honesty and the history and duration of same, only then can you afford the luxury of a diagnosis, through a qualified professional.
What he has done to you, and your relationship with him, is set it on fire and burned his fidelity, loyalty, honesty, scruples, integrity, morals, and compassion.
What is wrong with this situation, that you would accept this behaviour, and wonder about how to broach the subject with him, even with all the proof you have!
He isn't sick by any stretch of the imagination, unless a Psychiatrist says he is with a diagnosis, and treatment, which of course, doesn't mean squat if he's not either capable, or willing, to make major changes to his very character.
You have email, photos, messages. Print them out, slap them on the kitchen table and tell him to start talking, or start walking.
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