[free2fight542]

I can masturbate and orgasm, I can receive oral and orgasm... but no matter what or who I can't orgasm during sex! I am very turned on by my husband but neither him nor any man I have ever been with before marriage can make me orgasm during intercourse. I have never got to experience that 'bout to pass out feels so good shaking sensation" even the ones I do have are so minor.:mad: is there something wrong with me? :confused: :(

[Synnen]

Nope. Nothing is wrong with you.

A lot of women can't have orgasms during intercourse.

As long as you ARE having orgasms, just enjoy the sex and get off the ways you know you can get off.

[AJJWWELLS]

The more you orgasm, the stronger they will get. So "exercise often". Also, if you orgasm during oral, let him get you to where you are about to have an orgasm orally, then go right to having sex. You may also want to go to local adult store and purchase a toy to use during sex. Try the Rabbit. You will love it.

[jbarrington]

First of all, I agree with Synnen that nothing is wrong with you.

Women can typically fall into one of two categories. The clitoral orgasm, or the vaginal orgasm.

The clitoral orgasm is generally considered when a direct stimulus is applied directly to and/or surrounding the clitoris. Some penetrating motions may supplement the sensation, but the primary route for their climax is the clitoral stimulation.

The vaginal orgasm is when a woman needs more of the penetrating sensation to achieve her climax than a direct contact with the clitoris.

Being in either group is not saying that one group is better than the other.

Judging from your message, it sounds like you might be within the clitoral group where his oral and/or your masturbation efforts are more concentrated and successful.

I also agree with AJJWWELLS coment on letting your husband perform oral stimuli on you and even letting him help masturbate you with any devices you and him feel comfortable with. Talk openly to him. A large majority of males would enjoy helping their partner reach an even higher state when approached with information that a certain extra action will greatly intensify your pleasure while he is going through his motions and getting his.

Apologies for getting a little bit graphic next, but perhaps something like a different position where his genitals come into a more frequent and direct contact with your clitoris during the actual sex act. One such position (if it is comfortable for you and him) might be one type of “doggie” style with your rear up, your head down, and your back arched downward. Another could be if you were on top while he is on his back. You might have to experiment on reaching the best stimulus.

[kp2171]

Oral first to get you primed. This ought to be mandated in most cases. If I don't do oral on my partner first, she's not as mentally ready, she's not as naturally lubricated, and its just a nice way to start sex anyway.

Then choose a position you like where you have more control, such as "cowgirl"... forget about missionary, you aren't getting the stim you need.

For that matter, do you self stimulate while he's inside you. There are positions that would never get my partner off if she wasn't willing to use her finger to self stimulate. In fact, there was a "money position" I favored, one that always, always gets me off... but it doesn't her... until she decided once to self stim while in her, which lead to us both hitting climax at the same time in the position she never got off on.

And some just might not work for you. Missionary feels nice, but has hardly ever gotten my partner off. Not with me. Not with her previous partners. Just not enough right contact and movement.

Maybe you've tried this and it didn't work? Another partner, who liked strong cl!toral stim would tell me when to use my fingers to stimulate her cl!toris while in the missionary position. She was unique though, as she really could take rough, direct stim of the cl!toris.

If all else fails can you use some kind of vibrator? I know it might make your partner feel funny at first, but if my wife self stimulates I don't see it as a failure of mine to get her off. The placement of the cl!toris is just in a lousy place for a lot of sex positions. If anything, I'm turned on by the fact that she wants it badly enough and isn't content to just go along for the ride.

Also, in some positions you can increase his pleasure too by using your finger or a vibe to self stimulate. Your fingers can graze him as well from time to time, changing the sensations he feels and pushing him over the top.

[simoneaugie]

When you are on top don't "ride the pony," "row the boat."