[shrekkery]

Hi. The first 4 month of my relationship was great we had sex 4 to 5 times a night then she got pregnant and we did it 1 time a day then it was 1 time a week then 1 time month 4 16 months after my son was born it was 1 every 2 weeks and then it was 3 times a week after she whated to have more kids now it back 2 1 time a month. What can I do 2 have sex like we did at the start after she has this kid?

[kaitlinandreg07]

I am a mother and a young one at that although what you have to understand is that she just went through a hell of a lot and I was exactly the same during and after I was pregnant I didn't want any thing to do with sex or men! And you arnt alone my fiancé was in a bigger prediciment than you we did it like 1 a month! Now everything has changed and because he has backed off and won't ask for it any more I have become more attracted to him and I'm like a wild tiger. Don't stess it will get better and it will all change. This is what kids do to you, change!! Buy her flowers when you get paid a card to say you love her a kiss when she least expects it just make sure you don't come on too strong, let her make the move! Good luck!

[Fr_Chuck]

Would like to hear more about if she is working and caring for a child, Are you helping take care of the baby, getting up in the middle of the night,

Also there is a lot ( a whole lot) more to a relationship than just sex, and she may well want to feel more of a emotional caring relstionship

And if you are expecting to have sex 4 or 5 times anight every night, being the parents of 2 kids ( one a baby) forget it, the few times a week may be realistic but most parents caring for a baby look seroiusly for sleep not sex.

[robertsqueen]

After I had my baby I didn't want sex. I am still not that into sex. Is she on birth control?

[kp2171]

Back to what it was might not happen.

How long has it been since she had "this kid"?

Stress and being tired can kill libido.