[talaniman]

Have you talked about your concerns? Generally a lack of sex is only a symptom of a greater problem that needs addressing, and that's what has to be figured out.

Where does he get his pot money from, and why doesn't he work? Don't know the meds he takes, but you can Google them for side effects but a doctor would be the way to go.

Also what has changed, or made circumstances different such as arguments, or disagreements that have led to resentments, or unresolved conflicts.

With you working, and in school, is your expectations of attention from him to high? Hard to say what's going on between you, but you both should be talking.

[portlandamh]

Yes we have talked, and he tells me it has to do with low levels of testosterone, medications etc. He doesn't work because apparently in his family as long as your "in school" dad fronts all living expenses, so he essentially has a "budget" he gets each month and he has included extra for his pot, and he has a marijuana medical license so often times he gets it free, don't ask about that one. Anyway, we have issues just like any couple but nothing that would explain the lack of sex, its very frustrating, he says this week he will be getting health insurance, which his dad will pay for he just has to put the effort into finding it and signing up, and then he will get back on testosterone which he was on briefly 6 months ago and seemed to make things a little better. I don't know what I was expecting to hear, I know he needs to continue talking to his doctor about this, which he did before and that is why he was on testosterone, but I feel like we are too young for this.

[talaniman]

Your never to young for life to knock you around. You learn to adjust. What kind of seizures are we talking about. You can go to Web MD, and see the side effects of his medications.

[artlady]

Regarding his meds,if he discusses with his Dr. about his decreased libido,they may be able to try some other meds until they find one that works.My BF had to do that with Blood pressure medicine.

This sounds medical and you can't fault the guy for that.If I was in his position I would at least make an attempt to satisfy your urges.

He still has the ability to take care of your needs.It happens all the time in relationships when one partner can't have sex for whatever reason. Ask him for a hand here.

[lady_g_123]

Hi there,

I completely understand your dilemma! I've been with my boyfriend for close to 5 years too and the first year we were together we were inseparable and our sex life was amazing. It gradually got worse over the years and now we will have sex every 4 months or so if that! He is very affectionate but it seems he is too lethargic to actually perform. He also smokes a lot of pot. I can understand your frustration for sure, I find myself in the same situation. It's a horrible feeling almost as if feeling rejected and not wanting to try with it anymore. If you find an answer let me know!

Xx

[LJDK]

Sounds like a medical issue and pot is the scape goat here for your frustrations. Same as above, get a MD's advise.