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I have a question about marriage and sex. I prefer sex at night, when we go to bed and my husband prefers it in the morning, when we wake up. I have a problem with it in the morning because sometimes (like this morning) a child is in our bed because of a bad dream, illness or whatever. Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone have any ideas on what to do about our completely different desires? Honestly, I could try, but it does take a lot more work for me to get going. It's like have to totally clear my mind before I can truely enjoy the situation. We are both a little frustrated.
I prefer spare of the moment
But i dont have kids so that makes a difference but if i had to make a choice in the mornin for some bizarre reason sex gives a nicer sensation but then again there's always the mornin breath that isnt so nice lol, but i like at night to coz its a nice ending to go to bed.
im a late night person. wife is morning person. it can be tough. for the most part, i have to compromise. by the end of the night shes exhausted (up since 5am). we also have a little one (3 yr old) that can ruin any morning fun... if anything, you are always tense about the child waking up even if he doesnt, which distracts from the moment. id like to makeout a little more, and morning just isnt a sexy time in my opinion.
so we havent found a great compromise, other than i tend to go her direction more than she goes mine. sex at 5am is better than nothing. ive had nothing before. i use to scoff at early morning sex. call me a broken man, or a smarter one. my father-in-law used to say the worst sex he ever had was great... meaning i guess 5am morning breath, squinty eyed, havent had my coffee yet sex is still fun. =) there, have i really ruined it for you?
i jokingly asked her last week if we pay a babysitter to come watch the kid and then we go somewhere and have sex, is that wrong? she quickly said no. =) his grandmother used to take him twice a week, once on the weekend and once during the week, and wed almost always use some of that time to be intimate... sometimes joke between us that grandma didnt even have to leave, she could just walk him up and down the block a few times. =)
so... i guess i dont have an answer for you. my wifes job takes a lot out of her, and her natural rhythm is just opposite mine. the one thing weve done is promise to take an overnight every month or so... we get someone to watch the boy overnight and we grab a hotel room after a date. its great.
its a little silly, as the hotel is like 15 minutes away from our house. but it lets us relax and really enjoy each others time, and still not be so far away that if there was an emergency we could get there if needed.
Youll think its strange, but my fiancee and I have been gettin the grandma over to watch our son who is three...Will actually go to the strip club, grab a few drinks-watch stuff shake for us, grab a hotel and the night usually goes pretty well.....just another option...
if your women likes to see other women.....this will definitly spice it up
but remember to always be respectful to your woman....no matter how fine or big and thick the dancer is.....lol
I have a question about marriage and sex. I prefer sex at night, when we go to bed and my husband prefers it in the morning, when we wake up. I have a problem with it in the morning because sometimes (like this morning) a child is in our bed because of a bad dream, illness or whatever. Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone have any ideas on what to do about our completely different desires? Honestly, I could try, but it does take a lot more work for me to get going. It's like have to totally clear my mind before I can truely enjoy the situation. We are both a little frustrated.
Thanks for any advice you can offer.
don't to anything for a month and your husband will need sex and he will agry to sexing at night. ok
Thank you so far. I think I have concluded that we may need more alone time. I suppose it doesn't have to be just in the morning or the evening. Maybe when he is home during the day, I should make a point of innitiating. Maybe I could even wake up earlier too. I hate getting up early, but maybe I could compromise. Thanks all.
I agree bad sex is still good sex! I like that idea...thanks kp.
well, the only issue i think he needs to understand is the issue of giving you time... as in time to lose yourself in the moment, and that probably means sometimes at night hes just going to have to be a nice guy and see things your way.
that is, if you have to wake yourself up in the dim hours of the morn because he wont show you some attention at night, then hed probably better be willing to do the work to get you interested in the morning. hopefully hell be gracious and giving, and if you guys can make it a really early morning thing, you can get a nap in after. =) actually, as much as im a late night person, ive found that when my partner and i fool around ugly early, as in closer to, like 4-5am versus 7am, im actually more awake in those early morning hours.
and i would be frank with him... let him know you are interested in meeting his needs and willing to try to work with him on times, but that you are also going to need your needs met... as in time spent on you. if you cant get your mind into it, you know youre just going through the motions. which, again, isnt bad, but not enough.
the bad thing about my wife being an early morning person is occasionally well be having fun and then i can just see that shes starting to think about the day in front of her, at which point its pretty much over for her. oh well. time to go make the coffee. =P
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