K well there's this guy we've been friends for awhile.. we are totally hott for each other..
Like we did do a bit of 4play... but the thing is he wants to have sex with me so bad.. and I want to have sex with him as well! But I feel like if I do it that's all I might turn out to be is a sex object to him! Because I know that's what our relationship would turn out to be! So what should I do? I am very sexually attracted to him! Im just a but self cautious of my body because I think he is so sexy and it kills me! What should I do? Please Help

You have the power to say "no." It is okay to do that. You can explain to him about the way that you feel about this. Like being used as an object for sex, etc. It's also okay to talk about this with him. If the relationship really amounts to or is going to amount to anything beyond sex, then these things need to be discussed.

It's okay to want sex. That is called being human. It's also okay, and definitely best to wait to have sex. When it is right and there is true meaning in the relationship, that is when it can be called "making love." Other than that, it could be called, "making lust."

Think of all the people who are all really old and can't have or don't want sex anymore. Yet, their relationships may have lasted 50 years or more. Much more to their relationships than sex that has kept them together. Just some fuel for your discussion with him.

One more thing, I hope that you are both of the age where it is legal for you to have sexual relations. That is very, very important. If not, then there could be big problems and repercussions.

I am sure that others will have some thoughts and opinions concerning your post. Please listen with an open mind. I am sure that you will just by the fact that you have been open in even posting the question.

Well yes I am a very smart girl! I am at that age where I have had sexual encounters!
And I also know that he has as well! See but what I'm saying is I don't know if anything is going to change if we do have sex! I know how relationships work and all that!
Its just very frustrating!

The best thing to do would probably be to say no for a while and don't act TOO interested but just continue with the 4play. Then wait a while and then it should be better for the both of you and he will also respect you more. You don't know what will happen when you do it, you may have sex one time and he will dump you like yesterdays newspaper. You need to just wait, if you can and take it a little slow and then when you know him a little more and his intentions then you should do it.

How old are you?

Ok. I think I understand where your coming from. If you want to have sex with him so badly, its going to happen. I think the real issue is after you do have sex. Will it be awkward? Maybe, if not good but you have to make it quite apparent that that's not where the relationship goes. So you may have sex one day, make sure that doesn't mean you are giving it up the next day or two when he wants it after that because then you just become that sex toy that he can have whenever and his respect for you goes down the crapper. Just be mature with your friendship, and enjoy the attraction between the two of you, but don't become the subordinate when the mindgames chime in, because they will.