Oh I've seen people that ridicule, trivialize, ignore and otherwise marginalize large people.

I find that behavior rude. Like I said , big women flat out do not turn me on, and never have, but that's never stopped me from having large friends. Some of my best friends have been large people over the years.

What ever you are talking about Brocksgirl
I ain't into women fat or skinny!!
IF I want to be with someone it will be a GUY thank you.

OH and I ain't blonde either!
Fat maybe, blonde N0PE!

AND the OP said views (meaning either way) NOT who IS into big women.

Play nice, kids.

There's no reason to get rude or mean to each other.

We can still be respectful even if we don't agree.

I am not going to agree or disagree with what Smoothy says, he is entitled to his opinion. If he doesn't like big women, it's OK. Women tend to jump on the bandwagon and chastize men for not having a preference to larger women. It is crazy, when most of us here would not give the time of day to a 400 lb man. If you can't be physically turned on by a large man or a large woman, that is fine and not abnormal. We all have a picture in our minds of what ideal beauty is, what we like and what we don't. I applaud Smoothy for his honesty! Having said that...

Sex is not better with one group than another; fat people are not better than skinny people. Ugly people aren't better than pretty people. Rich people aren't better than poor people. Making any assumption for a group of people is ignorant. Sex is what you and your partner make of it. It is about connecting, passion, and attraction, it is not about their size. It is about what works for you and what works for your partner and what gets you both hot.

My boss always says...


For every pot, there is a lid ;)

Enjoy folks :)

Just for the record, I am 5' 9" 150 and am married to man that is 5' 9" 475lbs The sex is pretty dog gone good.

Hello Lady:

Really? I don't mean to get personal, but how do you find his johnson? That's the first thing to disappear when you get fat.

excon

It was trial and error for awhile, but we worked it out. Some positions are impossible, because the "johnson" just won't reach, but we have def found our groove. It is better sex than I have ever had before with normal sized partners. He was the first and only big man that I had ever dated, and there were def some frustrating moments at first.

The real problem is fat people are unhealthy, unfit, sometimes sweaty and smelly which makes them not the ideal choice of sex buddies. Sure you can love someone who's chubby or who turns chubby during a relationship, but do they make you want to get a chubby??

And thin people are obsessive about their weight, just as unfit at times, and sometimes annoyingly smug about the fact that THEY aren't overweight. Thin people are also more likely to have huge egos about their looks.

My point is not that you're wrong--it's that every group of people has exceptions, and every group of people has habits that are annoying or that could be a dealbreaker for others.

I agree with the above poster that clumping people together in stereotypes is ignorant.

No Dave,

In my opinion, the real problem of today, is people need to live and let live.

Unhealthy comes in every shape and size and so does stinkee.

Expand your view and see past what you see, and your liable to enrich your life ten fold :).

Actually I have seen many big women that have the same attitude toward skinny women.
They are obsessed with their 'more pushin' for the cushion' attitude and put skinny women down like they are inferior.
Did you ever see The Big Beautiful Women Club when they would go on Sally Jesse Raphael in their negligees and flaunt themselves all over the stage??
As Smoothy says

Its all in what floats your boat.

All I have to say about the whole big people are unhealthy, well I'm 5'9 300lbs and my husbdan is 6"2 220lbs and he eats more food then I do, he also eats out (fastfood) then I do. I tend to eat more veggies and fruit then him. So you have to stop looking at one person and thinking that everyone like her/him are all the same.
My husband and I will be married a year in April, and we have been together for 2 years in may, but we had a rocky sex life in the beginning, we tried different things, some worked and some didn't. But we tried to make it work, and I will tell you what this man sure knows how it give it to me.
Who and about the sweting thing, everyone does it, skiny, avrage, and big. So just get over it.

I suppose if you are enjoying yourself then more power to you.

There is probably a larger issue with this and that is obesity is a huge problem in western societies, it is outgrowing cancer as the number one killer. So regardless of your sexual preferences people who are overweight are damaging themselves and the children they are having. Live a fit and healthy lifestyle and imagine how good sex will be with your partner then. So just get over it!!

Remember what I said about playing nice? Let's keep that in mind here.

And as far as being overweight being an epidemic, that may be so--but let's stay on topic, okay?

Sorry. Got a bit carried away there.

Skinny people have health problems but heavy people IF they are not eating healthy and keeping track of their health are more likely prone to
Sleep apnea
Metabolic syndrome
Heart problems
Bad cholestrol/leptin levels

I have to aggree with you in that one. But I'm am trying to get healthyer, it is hard. But like I said my husband fell in love with me for who I am, and told me I could stay the ways I was or change its up to me. He loves me for me, so yeah I guess if you ONLY LOOK AT THE OUTSIDE OF SOMEONE THEN YOU WILL NEVER FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE, AND YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. BUT IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK TO THE PERSON THEN, JUST THEN WILL YOU FIND YOUR TURE MATCH.

Oh I bet he does love you with all his heart. And I have no doubt you are a beautiful girl.. not one doubt.

Here's the thing, you have your husband who just adores you and you he... and that equates to great happiness.

So you want your time together to be forever - and the two of you to continue to enjoy that happiness and each other.

You don't want to fall sick or him to, so the love that you have for each other, is something that you want to share for a very long time, and is reason enough to want to be healthy. And also to feel good and not tired or drained (assuming you do)

This is not about a weight number or appearnce. It's about you being able to enjoy hubby for a very long time.


So, you can start slow... and again, this is not about losing pounds... it's just about getting healthy. Hey, hubby and I are taking the same road too :)

So, for right now, don't over focus on what your eating. I love to go for walks. It clears my very busy head. So, maybe you want to start with a 5 or 10 minute walk a day. Change nothing else (for now :). Next week bump it up to 15 minutes and take it at your own pace.

What you and your husband have is real and true and precious... hold on to it :)

Wishing you the very best,

Allheart

OK... I received a pm from a distraught member so I feel I better say this one more time out of respect.

I am not and never have intended to put down larger women. Like I have previously stated some of my best friends over the years have been large women.

What I meant by what I said was I am not turned on by them sexually. That has nothing to do with my being able to respect them as friends, and having a real friendship with them just as I would any other person.

I chose my friends based on who they are inside. I will admit I have chosen my lovers based on who they are inside as well as what they look like outside.