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Grieving? Is that what it is?

Well now that I think about it, I hadn't really allowed myself to show any emotion since the onset of all this, but then today I read a response, from excon, and...

sylvan_1998 agrees: I agree. OP seemed to come up with more facts as the advice was not what the OP wanted to hear.

Sylvan... I didn't, as you say, come up with more facts when the advice wasn't...

I’m sorry. I have gotten myself all worked up. Now that I have regained my composure, I think I finally understand what is being said.

It seems that I wasn’t willing to entertain the idea that...

No, you didn’t misread it. I just left out all the sordid sexual details. Because really, what difference does that make? I didn't walk in on him and this other man doing it, but then again the...

I’m not really sure what you are trying to say. I thought I addressed every response whether it was a “validating” response or not.

Did I miss someone? If so, it was not intentional.

I felt I needed to address this.

I would like you to understand that my decision to leave my husband has nothing to do with sexuality, or Carlos Rencia, but rather TRUST. I do however get the...

Thank you, thank you.

But just know, that nothing, and I mean nothing, tempers the pain of knowing something like this. It is going to hurt for a long time to come. Hopefully only mentally,...

No need to apologize. It means a lot to me that you even took the time to reply.

Thanks anyway, to you and everyone who took the time to reply.

You say that you would lose it if you ever found out something like this about your husband.

For the record, please know that the only reason I am holding it all together now is because I am...

I have already said that I love him, but that does not mean I am willing to accept this type of behavior. We have discussed this, several times, and the bottom line is I will not share my life, my...

Comedian or not, all I said is it takes a wise person to come to that conclusion. Just because he's a comedian doesn't mean he doesn't have wisdom. That is close minded.

Thank you for sharing. I just Googled Carlos Mencia. I had not heard of him before. Apparently he is well sought after, and a very wise man to come to the conclusion that he did! I don’t really...

Yes, I did.

Your guess about what changed is as good as mine…

For the most part, up until 6 months ago we had a satisfying sexual relationship. It is when he started this new job and met this new man when...

Dear Choux, thank you so kindly for your response and for sharing your own personal experience. I am sorry you went through this also. Are you OK?

Your wise advice is similar to advice that I...

It is weird isn't it? But they have locks on the doors where he works, so he wouldn't have a problem with privacy. I have even gone to his job and we have got it on in his bedroom. Which only...

You are right, growing up around homosexuality/bisexuality has caused me to have very strong feelings on the subject. However, I use the term bisexual in an extremely loose content.

I...

Yes, I believe my mind is set, as I cannot tolerate lying and mistrust. It doesn’t matter to me what he lied about, just the fact that he lied is enough. One lie, two lies, ten lies. What's next? ...

I really should have taken more time to read some of the other questions here before I posted.

It is quite obvious I am not alone with this type of situation.

I just read another post,...

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En.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_plug

Butt plugs (or anal plugs) are sex toys designed to be inserted in the anus and rectum for sexual pleasure. In some...

I know you mentioned he had a check up, but has he ever been checked for diabetes? I know someone who is diabetic who says he often has times when he isn't able to achieve an erection. Just a...

I don't play the victim card... ever. If anything, the only victim here is him being a victim of his own sexuality.

He's the perpetrator of this mess.

Even if communication was not an issue,...

I absolutely can see now that the doors were not open, and I feel betrayed.

I never thought he would lie to me. But I never really thought about how much he stands to lose by admitting that...

Yes, certainly a list, but that wasn't even everything. There are other things that he has done in the past that have made me question his sexuality, but I just ignored the signs thinking I was over...

Yes, I was shocked by his recent admission about his involvement with men. The problem is, I asked him several years before if he had ever had any involvement with men, and he said he had never...

I agree, the number one key is you must use a lot of lubrication.

I hope this isn't too graphic, but I have also heard that an anal plug can be used to prepare the anus for the act of...

My husband’s work schedule changed about 6 months ago, at which time he began working 2 jobs, only coming home for about 45 minutes in the morning to shower, change and go to his next job. There are...