Is it possible for a man not to be ready for sex?

jennifer2007 · #1 Mar 7, 2007, 07:55 AM

I have been going out with this guy for couple of months now. Our relationship developed very slowly, but it is getting somewhere now. He recently told me that he is not ready for sex. Is it possible? I know he is very sensitive. But, should I be afraid that there is something he is not telling me? or really he is not ready. Well, I am 32 and he is 34..Is it possible? I know he likes me. We hang out and touch each other everyday. very good kisser. Please help me, I really need opinions..

J_9 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:10 AM

Jennifer, I see nothing wrong with this. Actually, it is honorable if he is doing it because he wants to wait for marriage. Yes, he may be 34, but maybe he feels that he is saving it for someone very special on that very special night.

ballengerb1 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:13 AM

He may have had some experiences that left a mark. He may have made mistakes in the past the haunt him and now he wants to go slow. Try it for awhile but not forever. If the relationship does not move forward in the next few months his scaring maybe too deep for you to buy in.

jennifer2007 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:13 AM

I don't think so he is virgin. He had several girlfriends in the past. And I know that he is not religious at all.

J_9 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:16 AM

Well, there ya go, you said he is a virgin. Just because he wants to wait does not mean he is a religious man. Many people wait for their wedding night for their own personal reasons. Religion is not always the only reason.

jennifer2007 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:17 AM

sorry u got it wrong! he is not a virgin! he used to live with a girlfriend.

ballengerb1 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:19 AM

A little voice in my head says there might be something big going on in the head of a 34 year old virgin. I do not advocate pre-marital sex but this situation seems a bit unusual.

jennifer2007 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:22 AM

I do not understand your postings? he is not a virgin! he used to live with a girl. In fact, they lived together for two years, about to get married but did not work out.

J_9 · Mar 7, 2007, 08:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jennifer2007

he is virgin.

Sorry, I did not get it wrong. That is what you wrote. Above it states that he IS a virgin.

So, which is it?

Tuscany · Mar 7, 2007, 08:28 AM

Well that could be the reason why he does not want to rush into sex. He was in a sexual relationship that did not work out. Maybe now he wants to wait. I find that very sweet and highly commendable.



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