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eustress89 · Jul 28, 2007, 06:36 PM

All right, so I always hear it is a huge turn on for guys to watch you "pleasure yourself." Well I tried it once, and he said it didn't turn him on at all, why ? I mean yeah, all guys are different, but maybe it was because he just felt akward watching me. What do you think?

J_9 · Jul 28, 2007, 06:38 PM

How old are you?

eustress89 · Jul 28, 2007, 06:42 PM

22

J_9 · Jul 28, 2007, 06:47 PM

Thank you. I am sure you will get some great answers soon, just had to make sure you were over the age of 18 to post in adult sexuality.

eustress89 · Jul 28, 2007, 06:52 PM

Oh that is fine. Thank you for checking.

Dennis777 · Jul 28, 2007, 07:47 PM

Hello.

Some Guys feel like your trying to replace them by doing yourself or using toys, But most enjoy watching and playing along. You need to make it a game for him so he knows your not unhappy with what he does for you but your wanting to add to his pleasure. Try letting him catch you doing yourself OR do a little dance for him that ends in you doing yourself. Maybe when your watching a sexy Movie slowly start doing yourself and then let him help you.

If he is a little kinky tie him up and make him watch you do yourself then do him.

Have Fun
Dennis777

letmetellu · Jul 28, 2007, 09:15 PM

That is one of those things that the guy has to be in the mood to enjoy. Just think how you would feel if he just came in and yanked it out and started his thing. You might not be in the mood for that sort of thing and you might not be pleased much less turned on. But if you were in the tub and you were having sexual thoughts and he came in and started the act you might enjoy it and it might take you to the point you would want to do yourself and I have an idea he would be turned on then.

excon · Jul 29, 2007, 05:37 AM

Hello eustress:

Me?? I'd love it.

excon

Xrayman · Jul 29, 2007, 04:09 PM

Er, love it. Next!

Fr_Chuck · Jul 29, 2007, 04:23 PM

Everyone is different, if you read though posts here and just from kowning people though life, there is no one turn on for everyone.

Some like talking dirty, or reading dirty stories, I read about someone in a batman suit last year

For a married couple in the privacy of their bedroom, they need to find what each other enjoys.

ramblinguy · Jul 29, 2007, 04:38 PM

Personally I love it , but at 22 this might seem too advanced (scary) for a guy who is also young. Talk about it with him. We are not all the same in the sexual arena. What you might read or hear is often a misleading generalization.

talaniman · Jul 29, 2007, 04:49 PM

I got turned on just reading the title. I don't know if I can take to many pages of this thread so you get a greenie in my book. What was your question again??

klovesj110603 · Jul 29, 2007, 04:59 PM

That right... My husband likes it but it is true everyone is different.. Ask him his turn ons if he is shy about it ensure him that you just want to make his experience better and you won't tell anyone else. Some men can't open up and its sad. Try different things with him slowly over time and when he gets turned on I'm sure you will know. Or maybe try it together and just keep your eyes locked in on eachothers faces and kiss. He won't have to watch and you won't have to try extra hard. Hope I could help

bushg · Jul 29, 2007, 10:52 PM

Some men love it. Some doesn't. I guess yours doesn't. For the ones that don't, it is a good tool to use when you are angry with them. :P

smoothy · Jul 30, 2007, 06:03 AM

Many guys would enjoy it but not all, every man is not turned on by exactly the same stuff. Its possible he felt awkward... or not. I'm sort of indifferent about it, but lean in the direction of liking it However I do see it as a learning experience. It lets you see in a non-verbal way exactly what she likes and how to push some of her buttons since no two women like exactly the same thing in exactly the same way.

eustress89 · Aug 3, 2007, 02:53 PM

Thank you all so much for your help. I just feel like pleasing myself in front of him so maybe he gets the idea that I want some pleasure from HIM. He rarely pleasures me on his own. Usually I will have to move his hand down, until he gets the idea. Or I will have to nudge his head down south. I don't know, if he doesn't like pleasing me, then I guess I shouldn't make him..

sparky_018 · Aug 5, 2007, 05:43 AM

I would love it but everyone is different I like seeing ma girlfriend using toys and me using them on her and love getting kinky both of us like I say I think everyone is different

statictable · Aug 5, 2007, 11:55 PM

And if the roles were reversed?

smoothy · Aug 6, 2007, 05:19 AM

Originally Posted by eustress89

Thankyou all so much for your help. I just feel like pleasing myself in front of him so maybe he gets the idea that I want some pleasure from HIM. He rarely pleasures me on his own. Usually I will have to move his hand down, until he gets the idea. Or I will have to nudge his head down south. I don't know, if he doesn't like pleasing me, then I guess I shouldn't make him..?

Some guys are too uptight about that. I bet he jumps if you slip a finger up his butt too. Or maybe he really doesn't have a clue how to go about doing it and is afraid to admit it.

I was lucky enough to have a bisexual girlfriend and her friend teach me this art when I was 18 so I basically went from an oral virgin to being taught in a threesome situation by two women how loved oral and never had to fumble through those awkward early stages.

eustress89 · Aug 7, 2007, 10:19 AM

Well no whenever he does do it, it is amazing. I just don't see why he doesn't start it. I have to initiate it.